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How Do You Know What You Need?

NAS39135

Hello, 

I hate the question 'what do you need at this time?' 

Ugh. A headache I don't need. 

This usually comes from health professionals when I go to then for a medically related issue. But since being under MAIN (a charity organisation that supports people with Autism), every time I go to then saying I am struggling I can't explain it and they ask this question and I never know how to answer it. 

I am a survivor of multiple types of abuse, I have abandonment issues from the relationship with my mum and other relationships I've had in life. I have complex grief as a result. I'm not sure whether my life has a way forward out of all these issues. I write fantasy novels but don't stand a chance of getting them published. I don't have the skills. 

I wish it was as simple as talking to someone professionally and explaining this and them saying 'You know what? I have the perfect solution.' 

But it's not. 

What do you do when you can't be heard by the very people who are supposed to help you? 

  • I need peace, and contentment.

    My local area isn't wise. It's a land that time forgot. But not in a good way.

    Fortunately, I have good neighbours; where I live. I'm not in the middle of the Gossip-Mill. Plus, the walls are strong enough to allow me to play Noisy Drone Rock, without anyone's sleep disturbed.

  • The problem is taking the question literally. You don't know what help is possible or available.

    What they are doing is asking what you are struggling with and which of those items you would like help with.

    They don't want to assume, you might look like you are struggling with something from the outside but he happy, or you might look ok but be finding it hard.

    Just say what your top problem, or top 2 problems are, and see what help they suggest.