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Are autistic people nice people?

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I’m curious about how autistic people are perceived socially, particularly around ideas like “niceness” and friendliness, which can be quite subjective and culturally defined.

From your own experiences, how do you interpret or experience interactions with autistic people? Do you think differences in communication style affect how autistic people are perceived as “nice” or not?

For those who have autistic friends (or are autistic themselves), what do you value in those friendships? What do you think autistic people often bring to relationships that might be overlooked or misunderstood?

I don't believe I've had autistic friends and don't seek autistic people out as potential friends so I'm curious to know whether other people are the similar.

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  • (2) Another take. Are neurotypical bad people?  Well I’ve met more that are than aren’t, the good ones are also susceptible to corruption and being exploited by the group, because they require the dopamine hit that acceptance gives them - they often over look one of the most basic principles of civility (acting like a decent human being).

  • in reply to pietro_21

    I think everyone is an individual.

    Extrapolating from anecdotal evidence, based on small sample sizes is risky.

    There's also the issue of statistics.

    If 25% of people are not nice, and 2% of the population are autistic, if you meet 1000 people:

    • 980 are NT
    • 245 NT are not nice
    • 20 are autistic 
    • 5 are not nice

    For every 50 not nice people, only 1 will be autistic. This will skew your perception. Most not nice people are NT, because most people are NT, but the ratio is the same. Some not nice people may be undiagnosed, but you can't tell 

    You could take an autism forum, but here it is a self-selecting group. Most not nice people may not join. Moderators may remove not nice people.

    I think it is hard to tell. Also nice is too vague a word. You need more specific words, caring, polite, considerate of others, etc. But these things also depend on context, so it becomes quite hard to answer.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    I often feel I am too nice or overshare with people who don’t deserve it, in addition to this I feel like I’m targeted for being different. I believe nd hold all the keys for making a better world their ideas are often taken and misused to the wrong ends by society or higher powers. I can provide many examples of this throughout history, sometimes I go out like today and receive a ridiculous amount of animosity on the street, in my view all nt and closed minded to difference. It’s not about looking at average numbers of people it’s about getting ‘normal’ people to think differently about the way they are behaving towards others.

    Nice is something you can learn or pretend to be, human nature on the whole as a statistical thing is not nice at all.

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  • in reply to Stuart333

    I often feel I am too nice or overshare with people who don’t deserve it, in addition to this I feel like I’m targeted for being different. I believe nd hold all the keys for making a better world their ideas are often taken and misused to the wrong ends by society or higher powers. I can provide many examples of this throughout history, sometimes I go out like today and receive a ridiculous amount of animosity on the street, in my view all nt and closed minded to difference. It’s not about looking at average numbers of people it’s about getting ‘normal’ people to think differently about the way they are behaving towards others.

    Nice is something you can learn or pretend to be, human nature on the whole as a statistical thing is not nice at all.

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