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Are autistic people nice people?

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I’m curious about how autistic people are perceived socially, particularly around ideas like “niceness” and friendliness, which can be quite subjective and culturally defined.

From your own experiences, how do you interpret or experience interactions with autistic people? Do you think differences in communication style affect how autistic people are perceived as “nice” or not?

For those who have autistic friends (or are autistic themselves), what do you value in those friendships? What do you think autistic people often bring to relationships that might be overlooked or misunderstood?

I don't believe I've had autistic friends and don't seek autistic people out as potential friends so I'm curious to know whether other people are the similar.

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  • There is a sub-set of autists who are people-pleasers. To some extent, I am one myself. Having spent a lifetime trying to fit in, by observing how allistic people behave, we have a very heightened awareness about how we are perceived by others and go out of our way to give a good impression, by being amiable and are always preemptively heading off any chance of friction or confrontation. Are we nice, or just phobic of all varieties of antagonism?

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  • There is a sub-set of autists who are people-pleasers. To some extent, I am one myself. Having spent a lifetime trying to fit in, by observing how allistic people behave, we have a very heightened awareness about how we are perceived by others and go out of our way to give a good impression, by being amiable and are always preemptively heading off any chance of friction or confrontation. Are we nice, or just phobic of all varieties of antagonism?

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