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Support for lone autistic adult

Chloexoxoxok

Hi all! 

I’m 20 years old and living at home , I’m making this post in hopes someone has a little bit of guidance and knowledge. 

My main and only care giver , my dad, has upped and left for his new younger girlfriend…

It leaves me with my sister who doesn’t live with me , she helps as much as she can but i only see her on the weekends. Aside from that , i’m alone. 

The current living situation for me is just so hard , i’m upset everyday and can only eat one meal. I’m recently officially diagnosed although it’s been accepted by my family for years. I was not ready to live alone , nor can i cope with it - yet it has been forced upon me.

Is there any support I can get from anywhere? I just can’t cope alone , 1 with the practical things and 2 I spiral when i’m alone and my mental health gets bad. 

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  • Hello.

    Give yourself a pat on the back and some credit. You say you can't cope but you are. It is not ideal, but you are doing well. No one is really ready, you just sort of muddle through. I appreciate it is hard, it is a big transition.

    Is it a permanent thing or a temporary thing for a few days or weeks? Has someone really just left you the house? 

    The key is to give yourself some leeway and not pressure yourself to be perfect. Take the pressure away and it will be easier. You can take cereal and milk, so that is breakfasts covered. You can make a sandwich, is just sone bread and some cheese or a bit of ham, you can eat a tomato, so that is lunch covered. If you can make some toast and heat a tin of beans you have dinner. You can boil an egg.

    You can make a cup of tea or coffee, so you have hot drinks covered.

    You can gradually expand.

    Use the radio or TV for company. I know it is not the same but sitting in silence is hard.

    Try to keep a bed routine and getting up routine.

    These things will help to steady you so you then have the capacity to think about.what to do.

    Not being so upset will help. You may be doing better than you think.

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  • Hello.

    Give yourself a pat on the back and some credit. You say you can't cope but you are. It is not ideal, but you are doing well. No one is really ready, you just sort of muddle through. I appreciate it is hard, it is a big transition.

    Is it a permanent thing or a temporary thing for a few days or weeks? Has someone really just left you the house? 

    The key is to give yourself some leeway and not pressure yourself to be perfect. Take the pressure away and it will be easier. You can take cereal and milk, so that is breakfasts covered. You can make a sandwich, is just sone bread and some cheese or a bit of ham, you can eat a tomato, so that is lunch covered. If you can make some toast and heat a tin of beans you have dinner. You can boil an egg.

    You can make a cup of tea or coffee, so you have hot drinks covered.

    You can gradually expand.

    Use the radio or TV for company. I know it is not the same but sitting in silence is hard.

    Try to keep a bed routine and getting up routine.

    These things will help to steady you so you then have the capacity to think about.what to do.

    Not being so upset will help. You may be doing better than you think.

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