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Haircuts! Why are the small things so hard?

Expecto_Patronum

I'm having a dilemma. Last year my normal hairdressers shut without warning. I found this very difficult but found someone that could come to me. Wasn't the solution I hoped it would be but I was getting my hair cut. I can't stand my hair getting longer by the way - mega sensory issue! I was a bit late booking what should have been my most recent haircut and that hairdresser is now unavailable for reasons that aren't her fault. This means that my hair is now at a really annoying length and I have no idea when this person will be able to cut it. The obvious solution is to go to a salon and ask them to cut it. But I am struggling so much with this concept. To ring or walk through the doors of the salon and speak to people feels too much as it is. To also explain that I struggle with haircuts and get very anxious is another level. To actually have someone else cut my hair fills me with dread. Will they do it right? How much should I tell them to take off when I've left it so late? Etc etc. I can manage to live alone and have a career but getting my haircut is a lifelong problem. Why are the small things so damn difficult?

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  • Reading your post, it suddenly struck me that I've not been to a hairdresser / for many many years. I think the last time any0one else did anything to my hair was when I had braids & extensions put in when I was going to Whitby Goth Weekend about 25-odd years ago!. I've mostly cut my own hair and even though I'm now extensively bald, I still cut what hair I have left myself. As a student I would visit a friend who had a set of clippers, or shave my head with a razor. When I had short hair I would often dye it (I had two nicknames in a bar I worked at - Astroturf and Sonic - imaginative eh?). It has only just dawned on me that this might be an Autist thing, as I remember I used to hate being taken to have my hair cut as a child. I hated the sound of the clippers around my ears and was always very nervous because I didn't like it when they inevitably nicked the skin behind my ears (why do they always do that?). I think I find cutting my own hair lots more convenient - there's no need to make an appointment and I can just cut it when it's getting annoying.

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  • Reading your post, it suddenly struck me that I've not been to a hairdresser / for many many years. I think the last time any0one else did anything to my hair was when I had braids & extensions put in when I was going to Whitby Goth Weekend about 25-odd years ago!. I've mostly cut my own hair and even though I'm now extensively bald, I still cut what hair I have left myself. As a student I would visit a friend who had a set of clippers, or shave my head with a razor. When I had short hair I would often dye it (I had two nicknames in a bar I worked at - Astroturf and Sonic - imaginative eh?). It has only just dawned on me that this might be an Autist thing, as I remember I used to hate being taken to have my hair cut as a child. I hated the sound of the clippers around my ears and was always very nervous because I didn't like it when they inevitably nicked the skin behind my ears (why do they always do that?). I think I find cutting my own hair lots more convenient - there's no need to make an appointment and I can just cut it when it's getting annoying.

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