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Haircuts! Why are the small things so hard?

Expecto_Patronum

I'm having a dilemma. Last year my normal hairdressers shut without warning. I found this very difficult but found someone that could come to me. Wasn't the solution I hoped it would be but I was getting my hair cut. I can't stand my hair getting longer by the way - mega sensory issue! I was a bit late booking what should have been my most recent haircut and that hairdresser is now unavailable for reasons that aren't her fault. This means that my hair is now at a really annoying length and I have no idea when this person will be able to cut it. The obvious solution is to go to a salon and ask them to cut it. But I am struggling so much with this concept. To ring or walk through the doors of the salon and speak to people feels too much as it is. To also explain that I struggle with haircuts and get very anxious is another level. To actually have someone else cut my hair fills me with dread. Will they do it right? How much should I tell them to take off when I've left it so late? Etc etc. I can manage to live alone and have a career but getting my haircut is a lifelong problem. Why are the small things so damn difficult?

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  • I cut my own hair, and my husbands, and my youngest sons. I’ve always hated going to the hairdresser. Cutting hair isn’t that difficult. 

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    I wouldn't have much confidence in my ability for something like that. I think I'd come out looking rather interesting.

  • in reply to Expecto_Patronum

    I would be the same. I practiced on my wigs which were placed on a head stand when I’d finished with them after chemotherapy years ago, and unsurprisingly found I haven’t got the fine motor skills to cut hair in a stylish or uniform fashion. I can see what should be, but my hand and fingers can’t make the movement to get the result I see in my mind. 

    I have the same problem with writing and drawing. I appreciate a good painting and I have a good eye for seeing if the perspective in a landscape painting with figures and objects looks right, but I can’t do it myself.

    Many of us have difficulties with executive functioning, and while it can be improved with practice, it remains limited. 

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  • in reply to Expecto_Patronum

    I would be the same. I practiced on my wigs which were placed on a head stand when I’d finished with them after chemotherapy years ago, and unsurprisingly found I haven’t got the fine motor skills to cut hair in a stylish or uniform fashion. I can see what should be, but my hand and fingers can’t make the movement to get the result I see in my mind. 

    I have the same problem with writing and drawing. I appreciate a good painting and I have a good eye for seeing if the perspective in a landscape painting with figures and objects looks right, but I can’t do it myself.

    Many of us have difficulties with executive functioning, and while it can be improved with practice, it remains limited. 

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