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Haircuts! Why are the small things so hard?

Expecto_Patronum

I'm having a dilemma. Last year my normal hairdressers shut without warning. I found this very difficult but found someone that could come to me. Wasn't the solution I hoped it would be but I was getting my hair cut. I can't stand my hair getting longer by the way - mega sensory issue! I was a bit late booking what should have been my most recent haircut and that hairdresser is now unavailable for reasons that aren't her fault. This means that my hair is now at a really annoying length and I have no idea when this person will be able to cut it. The obvious solution is to go to a salon and ask them to cut it. But I am struggling so much with this concept. To ring or walk through the doors of the salon and speak to people feels too much as it is. To also explain that I struggle with haircuts and get very anxious is another level. To actually have someone else cut my hair fills me with dread. Will they do it right? How much should I tell them to take off when I've left it so late? Etc etc. I can manage to live alone and have a career but getting my haircut is a lifelong problem. Why are the small things so damn difficult?

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  • I cut my own hair, and my husbands, and my youngest sons. I’ve always hated going to the hairdresser. Cutting hair isn’t that difficult. 

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    I wouldn't have much confidence in my ability for something like that. I think I'd come out looking rather interesting.

  • in reply to Expecto_Patronum

    It’s easy if you have either really short or really long hair. Short hair: clippers, long hair: just cut the ends of now and again. Lots of good YouTube videos that show you how to cut hair too. It’s not rocket science :) 

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I think that maybe I don’t care that much if it doesn’t look great! I think it’s true though ( as everyone has said) that it depends on the hair type and all sorts of other relevant issues. My absolute hatred of going to the hairdresser (sitting in front of that mirror trying to make polite conversation was unbearable for me) led me to think that anything is better than going through that! And doing my husband and sons hair was never that difficult ( they never wanted to face the hairdresser either!). My eldest son’s girlfriend cuts his now, and she cuts her own (or her mum cuts it for her). We seem to be an all round no hairdresser family! Plus it saves us a lot of money which is a massive bonus. After many years I think I’m pretty good at cutting hair now. Early on though I must admit there were a few less than good attempts! 

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Mine would have to be cut with scissors and I wouldn't manage a mirror at all. I really struggle with directions when looking in a mirror. I would likely make a complete mess of it.

    I have been brave and booked an appointment for Saturday somewhere new. I didn't manage to tell them very much other than I want it cut so goodness knows what it'll be like. But at least I've got over the first obstacle.

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    Mine is neither really short or long. I would not manage to cut it evenly. Particularly at the back. I couldn't rely on using a mirror to see what I'm doing. I really struggle with directions in a mirror.

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    It depends on what your hair type is and what sort of cut you have. It also depends massively on your mobility, I used to cut my own hair, but can't anymore due to hyper mobility in my fingers and frozen shoulders. Not everyone can cope with using mirrors to see the back of their heads either.

    Clippers are easy to use, but scissors a bit harder, you need really good sharp scissors that are proper hairdressing scissors, they're not expensive to buy, but blunt scissors will tear the hair leading to split ends and worse.

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  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    It depends on what your hair type is and what sort of cut you have. It also depends massively on your mobility, I used to cut my own hair, but can't anymore due to hyper mobility in my fingers and frozen shoulders. Not everyone can cope with using mirrors to see the back of their heads either.

    Clippers are easy to use, but scissors a bit harder, you need really good sharp scissors that are proper hairdressing scissors, they're not expensive to buy, but blunt scissors will tear the hair leading to split ends and worse.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I think that maybe I don’t care that much if it doesn’t look great! I think it’s true though ( as everyone has said) that it depends on the hair type and all sorts of other relevant issues. My absolute hatred of going to the hairdresser (sitting in front of that mirror trying to make polite conversation was unbearable for me) led me to think that anything is better than going through that! And doing my husband and sons hair was never that difficult ( they never wanted to face the hairdresser either!). My eldest son’s girlfriend cuts his now, and she cuts her own (or her mum cuts it for her). We seem to be an all round no hairdresser family! Plus it saves us a lot of money which is a massive bonus. After many years I think I’m pretty good at cutting hair now. Early on though I must admit there were a few less than good attempts! 

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Mine would have to be cut with scissors and I wouldn't manage a mirror at all. I really struggle with directions when looking in a mirror. I would likely make a complete mess of it.

    I have been brave and booked an appointment for Saturday somewhere new. I didn't manage to tell them very much other than I want it cut so goodness knows what it'll be like. But at least I've got over the first obstacle.