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Haircuts! Why are the small things so hard?

Expecto_Patronum

I'm having a dilemma. Last year my normal hairdressers shut without warning. I found this very difficult but found someone that could come to me. Wasn't the solution I hoped it would be but I was getting my hair cut. I can't stand my hair getting longer by the way - mega sensory issue! I was a bit late booking what should have been my most recent haircut and that hairdresser is now unavailable for reasons that aren't her fault. This means that my hair is now at a really annoying length and I have no idea when this person will be able to cut it. The obvious solution is to go to a salon and ask them to cut it. But I am struggling so much with this concept. To ring or walk through the doors of the salon and speak to people feels too much as it is. To also explain that I struggle with haircuts and get very anxious is another level. To actually have someone else cut my hair fills me with dread. Will they do it right? How much should I tell them to take off when I've left it so late? Etc etc. I can manage to live alone and have a career but getting my haircut is a lifelong problem. Why are the small things so damn difficult?

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  • Expecto_Patronum said:
    and that hairdresser is now unavailable for reasons that aren't her fault

    Hello! How about texting your hairdresser and asking if there’s another kind colleague she knows who could replace her just for one appointment cause your hair now really bothers you. 

    80% of us can’t handle a job ( following the statistics, but everyone feel free to correct me!) ) so I am pretty happy about you not liking hairdressers to much! Congrats on your career! 

    For me, going to the hairdresser is a major thing also. It feels very private: it’s tactile and verbal at the same time, with the mirror, the music, and other people around. It’s a sensitive situation. I’ve changed my hairdresser like 20 times cause I need a not very verbal and kind person. It is great to read about you and that my sensitivity is okay too.

     

  • in reply to Ma.ra.

    I have considered this.

    I think part of my dilemma is that I'm not that comfortable with my normal hairdresser as it is and I have been considering changing anyway but fear of the unknown and all that. So I'm hesitant to request someone to fill in when I perhaps should be finding someone to replace.

    My normal hairdresser advertises themselves as autism, anxiety, sensory friendly and unfortunately I have not found this to be the case. She is kind and a nice person. But she is very chatty which I dislike and doesn't seem to have much awareness of things that could impact sensory wise. Ive also found a big issue with having it at home is that there is no mirror Infront of me so I can't see what she's doing which is a horrible feeling. I thought I'd prefer not having to go to a salon but I'm not sure that I do.

  • in reply to Expecto_Patronum

    Oh, I see. Maybe something nice will happen by accident. Sending you energy! And now I can’t help but think of Harry Potter cause of your name here, when his aunt tried to cut his hair but he just kept growing it back again and again, in your case it should be vice versa. Relieved

  • in reply to Ma.ra.

    Oh my goodness yes. This made me smile. Thank you. I would love to have a spell that would mean I didn't have to have a haircut ever again. Or just a wand that meant I could cut my hair magically would be amazing. Oh there are so many things the wizarding world being real would make easier in my life.

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