Haircuts! Why are the small things so hard?

I'm having a dilemma. Last year my normal hairdressers shut without warning. I found this very difficult but found someone that could come to me. Wasn't the solution I hoped it would be but I was getting my hair cut. I can't stand my hair getting longer by the way - mega sensory issue! I was a bit late booking what should have been my most recent haircut and that hairdresser is now unavailable for reasons that aren't her fault. This means that my hair is now at a really annoying length and I have no idea when this person will be able to cut it. The obvious solution is to go to a salon and ask them to cut it. But I am struggling so much with this concept. To ring or walk through the doors of the salon and speak to people feels too much as it is. To also explain that I struggle with haircuts and get very anxious is another level. To actually have someone else cut my hair fills me with dread. Will they do it right? How much should I tell them to take off when I've left it so late? Etc etc. I can manage to live alone and have a career but getting my haircut is a lifelong problem. Why are the small things so damn difficult?

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  • I completely get this as someone who struggles to go to the hairdresser and hasn't been in 6 years. 

    I had one were I used to live in England, and we moved the town over and I kept going as I was comfortable there. Then we moved to Scotland. I managed to try one after a year, but I tried to go too short and my sister told me not to do that again and I was mortified. So over a year later, I went to someone different but they barely cut anything and I didn't know how to say it wasn't what I wanted so was too hard to go back. Then it was the pandemic and I was kind of glad it normalised not going and cutting your own hair. But that didn't last of course, and I've tried phoning other places but was told that weren't taking clients (I think they didn't like the sound of me and I was trying to get my kids a haircut), and years later I couldn't even get through. I wasn't strong enough to try again this year. 

    Now with the diagnosis, my husband says he can call for me (I struggle with phonecalls), but I need to find somewhere I want him to try, as I have to like the look of the place on street view. And hopefully get the kids in too as my son currently only lets me cut his, but he's going to high school next year and I want to give him a chance at not looking like his mum does his hair. And my daughter is 8 and never been so I want to show her it's okay. 

    It's so so hard isn't it. Can you get someone to give you a trim till your regular person can do it? Or maybe get someone to help make an appointment/ go with you to help?  It's a real genuine struggle!

  • It's silly but I hate asking for help with something like this and I don't really have a lot of options of people to ask. Thinking about asking just seems to be a lot of extra mental steps. I think I've just got myself stuck on this one.

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