Last night i opened up and admitted how difficult i find things, last night i was reassured and offered support. Today i open up some more, today i am shouted at and accused of being demanding. Anyone relate?
Last night i opened up and admitted how difficult i find things, last night i was reassured and offered support. Today i open up some more, today i am shouted at and accused of being demanding. Anyone relate?
It is exactly the same as if someone who is blind or profoundly deaf tries to describe their difficulties to someone without their disability, but more so. The average neurotypical has no reference point for autistic problems. Anyone can close their eyes or put their fingers in their ears and try to imagine what it would be like not to have these senses, but there is no facility for allistics to experience even the ghost of some of the problems an autistic person might have. In the best case we might get some level of sympathy, but actual understanding is extremely unlikely.
there is no facility for allistics to experience even the ghost of some of the problems an autistic person might have.
I really like a story very slightly connected to this. (I made the connection ) We have a new high-end building in town, a museum, and a lot of architects are not very happy with how and where it was designed. One of them said that when he enters, he feels dizzy. I like to remember that, because I feel dizzy there too, but I read it as autistic joy that I can sense space this much and it feels funny. I mean that allistics maybe have a hard time also with understanding our joys.
One day I’ll probably ask all of you what you think about my communication style – feedback is gold and I have problems at my volunteering workplace. But first I need to slow my racing thoughts. Maybe more hiking, and learning to enjoy quiet, even with other people. Hiking in silence with a group!”
we can help each other
I rush a lot, true, it is very helpful to read your feedback! Thanks!!!!
I rush a lot, true, it is very helpful to read your feedback! Thanks!!!!
One day I’ll probably ask all of you what you think about my communication style – feedback is gold and I have problems at my volunteering workplace. But first I need to slow my racing thoughts. Maybe more hiking, and learning to enjoy quiet, even with other people. Hiking in silence with a group!”
we can help each other