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Bananatropics26

I can't have sexual intimacy with grown women. I hate my life. Satan doesn't get it as hard as I get it. I'm as hard as they come. I'm a 25 year old virgin. Does noone exist in this crappy world. I wish I went to a different planet instead of this crappy one. I just got used again by a woman claiming she has autism. I hate my life it says something when you get used by your own kind. I will think twice from now on about trusting autistic people 

  • in reply to Iain

    No I agree with you. I was going to say I agree. Maybe I need to be taught something maybe Thinking 

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    Bananatropics26 said:
    Way I see it I get to take my mood out on people as punishment and tax for my delayed virginity

    As I see it this is an issue for both you and the people you want to be with.

    I would suggest you consider if it is worth using a professional to help you get over the virginity issue and ask them to teach you how to interact sexually with a woman in a healthy way. Forget what p0rn shows and listen to someone who does this for a living - they will know what you should know.

    Next  my suggestion is to learn to stop objectifying women for sex and work on making a connection with the person. It is not going to be easy and there is a lot to unlearn from old habits but when you can build a relationship then the sex is a natural extension of this.

    When you can deal with this ability to connect then you can find yourself in a position to decide if you want to connect in the more traditional sense with a parter or if you want to seek hookups using dating apps - they are also a valid choice but understanding what is going on in the dynamic here is something you should learn a lot about first since it is very easy to make yourself unappealing to potential hook up partners.

    It all takes a lot of work but I believe it is worth it. Once you get good enough to have a partner then ask them to teach you how to be better . Learn and understand and you will have the ability to mask your way to whatever opportunities you chose to persue later on.

    Step 1 is to get help though.

    All this is only my opinion though so feel free to ignore it.

  • in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

    As a woman I agree, I have never had high expectations when it comes to money and looks, but in order to want an intimacy with a man I need to have some emotional connection first - mutual topics to talk, we need to fit each other. Then I want to have more closeness with that person. Anytime I saw someone just coming straight away to the intimacy topic, I left. Building relationships on the spectrum is harder than for non-autistic people, but its also possible, especially if you have access to a support group.

    In my case I often felt better alone, than with a partner, but I also had my needs for intimacy and I can say, I took care of them by myself. Getting addicted is not good though. 

       it's awful, what you are going through I feel for you, but I can't help you. If you have access to any support group, psychologist or maybe sexuologist, try to talk to them and they should help you. It's a work on yourself that only you can do.

  • Do you think it's possible that your desire to lose your virginity and have sexual intimacy might be causing you to appear a tad too desperate and needy, and potentially be putting off potential suitors?

    You say this woman used you, although you didn't say how. We only have your version of events. Is it possible that you weren't on the same page in terms of what you both wanted, or that she had changed her mind (as everyone is entitled to do)?

    Taking your mood out on people as punishment is unlikely to endear you to people, therefore reducing your chances of meeting someone you can be sexually intimate with. In my experience, having a chip on one's shoulder tends to put people off.