New Year's resolution backfire

My new years resolution is to stop masking and just say what i'm thinking and feeling - well it's been one day and after trying to navigate a conversation that i was avoiding about mould in the bathroom i've landed myself in the midst of a backlash about how i'm trying to cause trouble and that i'm selfish etc etc....... no wonder we mask, i think not doing it is safer! Anyone relate?

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  • what on earth did you say about the mould in the bathroom?

    reading your post I’ve realised that I’m not certain I’ve ever masked with my friends - I obviously do with people I’ve not know very long or colleagues but my intimate friends I do this with and they know me and help and know I just word vomit my thoughts sometimes to help process them. I think actually if you have safe friends you know you can word vomit with and they know that you are not a malicious aggressive person it can be really beneficial because they help you figure out your problems. You just need to know who your friends are 

  • That moment when you realise that the very person you think you can open up to in the hope they'll want to help you process something turns out to be someone who doesn't want to even try and understand.

  • Yes!! I'm thinking of my GP...
    The very person I hoped would professionally care for me doesn't demonstrate empathy or curiosity.

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