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New Year's resolution backfire

JAX43

My new years resolution is to stop masking and just say what i'm thinking and feeling - well it's been one day and after trying to navigate a conversation that i was avoiding about mould in the bathroom i've landed myself in the midst of a backlash about how i'm trying to cause trouble and that i'm selfish etc etc....... no wonder we mask, i think not doing it is safer! Anyone relate?

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  • what on earth did you say about the mould in the bathroom?

    reading your post I’ve realised that I’m not certain I’ve ever masked with my friends - I obviously do with people I’ve not know very long or colleagues but my intimate friends I do this with and they know me and help and know I just word vomit my thoughts sometimes to help process them. I think actually if you have safe friends you know you can word vomit with and they know that you are not a malicious aggressive person it can be really beneficial because they help you figure out your problems. You just need to know who your friends are 

  • in reply to kiwipip

      i'm afraid my neurotypical housemate whose house it is has turned out not to be the safe friend i thought he was - there is a distinct lack of boundaries and alot of projection.

  • in reply to JAX43

    Yeah I’ve been there before too, it’s not ok and it’s even worse if they don’t communicate to you their boundaries or what the problem is just call you names etc 

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