Looking after yourself

I often say to people 'look after yourself' and it reminds me that my father used to say it to me and it really resonated.

I didn't look after myself for a large part of my life and I'm reaping the effects now.

Do you think that you find it hard to put yourself first?

Do you find it hard to physically care for yourself?

I wonder if this is autism related.

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  • I struggle with it. I change my clothes when someone tells me, they are dirty. Recently that was my daughter. I used to have big issues with hygiene when I was a teenager,  I had conversations with my grandma,  who used to explain to me, that I had to shower because I smelled bad and had grey spots on my skin. I couldn't understand why I had to shower. I was around 16-18  at that time. It was also granny sho would take me for shopping to buy me new trousers or shoes. If she just gave me money, I would forget about it because it was not in my daily routine. Now I don't have problems with showering, I made sure to include it in my daily routine, but I do still struggle with clothes and shoes. I often get clothes from my mom, so I don't have to remember to go shopping,  which I don't like. There is too wide choice and risk thst I would not find same item that tge one I have. And the crowds of customers and strong lights are aldo bad. It also happened to me to leave shop with something that I didn't want but couldn't say thst to the sales person. This caused me huge frustration and anxiety. So I appear to be fine, because I got help from various people in my life. I aldo had periods when I almost stopped eating, then periods of overeating, nor enough hydrating etc. Big mess.

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  • I struggle with it. I change my clothes when someone tells me, they are dirty. Recently that was my daughter. I used to have big issues with hygiene when I was a teenager,  I had conversations with my grandma,  who used to explain to me, that I had to shower because I smelled bad and had grey spots on my skin. I couldn't understand why I had to shower. I was around 16-18  at that time. It was also granny sho would take me for shopping to buy me new trousers or shoes. If she just gave me money, I would forget about it because it was not in my daily routine. Now I don't have problems with showering, I made sure to include it in my daily routine, but I do still struggle with clothes and shoes. I often get clothes from my mom, so I don't have to remember to go shopping,  which I don't like. There is too wide choice and risk thst I would not find same item that tge one I have. And the crowds of customers and strong lights are aldo bad. It also happened to me to leave shop with something that I didn't want but couldn't say thst to the sales person. This caused me huge frustration and anxiety. So I appear to be fine, because I got help from various people in my life. I aldo had periods when I almost stopped eating, then periods of overeating, nor enough hydrating etc. Big mess.

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