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My son's behaviour

Charu

Hi, I'm a single mum and have a son with Autism. But I'm having a lot of problems with his behavior. He's 8 and goes to a special school and behaves when he's there but in the house he doesn't listen to me, he runs from room to room and screams when he doesn't want to do what I tell him. When he gets angry he throws whatever he has in his hand on the floor, a few days ago he threw his laptop and broke it!! Another thing he does is roll on the floor, I'm not sure why he does that but when I tell him to stop he doesn't listen(it gets embarrassing). Recently he's started to chew on the leaves of my mum's plants as well, he breaks them off and also pulls up my mum's plants. He normally needs to wear glasses but he doesn't wear them either, only puts them on for 1 min then pulls them off again and throws them away. I'm getting very tired of his behavior but don't know what to do. I've not been able to get any respite as I've been told he needs to be 12 before we can apply!! I'm sorry to ramble on like this. But can anyone give me any ideas on calming him down or to make him listen. Thanks.

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  • I stand 100% behind my position. I am not given to abusing parents that come to this forum seeking advice to help their child. read my historic posts. Then reread the thread. The authour is not asking how to help her son, she concerns herself with how her sons behavour affects her:  

    "he doesn't listen to me, he runs from room to room and screams when he doesn't want to do what I tell him"

    "(it gets embarrassing)"

    "I'm getting very tired of his behavior"

    "I've not been able to get any respite "

    "can anyone give me any ideas...to make him listen"

    But assuming she does want to help her son, not herself I'll try to provide some insight:

    Try to reduce your sons perception of your tyrrany. He clearly has a measure of oppositional in his autism. Try saying things like "Dinners done, are you hungry?" as opposed to "come here and eat", "Its late, are you tired" rather than "Its your bedtime, go to bed?"

    As to the rolling, its compulsive. You cant try to forbid it, but he will likely outgrow it.

    As to the glasses. This is a hypersensitivty issue. They irritate his ears or nose. Have you tried different coatings on the parts of the glasses that contact his skin. Or maybe contacts although he probably wont want to put thing in his eyes, and certanly will not tolerate anyone else doing so but you might let him try. Maybe there is a surgical solution to his vision problems that will render the issue moot. 

    Oh and cmerrick, reread my post pls, and identify where i said she should not be allowed to keep her child.  What I said was that she needs to improve her attitude or give him up. Is the difference clear? Now ask yourself pls if your current anger is in part informed by my comments on your thread "so close to giving up"

    As to how i dare? i ask how i could do otherwise. Someone has to fight this childs corner....


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  • I stand 100% behind my position. I am not given to abusing parents that come to this forum seeking advice to help their child. read my historic posts. Then reread the thread. The authour is not asking how to help her son, she concerns herself with how her sons behavour affects her:  

    "he doesn't listen to me, he runs from room to room and screams when he doesn't want to do what I tell him"

    "(it gets embarrassing)"

    "I'm getting very tired of his behavior"

    "I've not been able to get any respite "

    "can anyone give me any ideas...to make him listen"

    But assuming she does want to help her son, not herself I'll try to provide some insight:

    Try to reduce your sons perception of your tyrrany. He clearly has a measure of oppositional in his autism. Try saying things like "Dinners done, are you hungry?" as opposed to "come here and eat", "Its late, are you tired" rather than "Its your bedtime, go to bed?"

    As to the rolling, its compulsive. You cant try to forbid it, but he will likely outgrow it.

    As to the glasses. This is a hypersensitivty issue. They irritate his ears or nose. Have you tried different coatings on the parts of the glasses that contact his skin. Or maybe contacts although he probably wont want to put thing in his eyes, and certanly will not tolerate anyone else doing so but you might let him try. Maybe there is a surgical solution to his vision problems that will render the issue moot. 

    Oh and cmerrick, reread my post pls, and identify where i said she should not be allowed to keep her child.  What I said was that she needs to improve her attitude or give him up. Is the difference clear? Now ask yourself pls if your current anger is in part informed by my comments on your thread "so close to giving up"

    As to how i dare? i ask how i could do otherwise. Someone has to fight this childs corner....


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