Giving and recieving gifts

When I was little I would love getting gifts and I still love getting them now! But I feel awful now because i literally can’t afford to buy anything nice in return, plus I’m worried what I’d get won’t be good enough. My mum seems to be very understanding about this but my dad doesn’t and calls me cheap, lazy scrounger. I mean he never buys me anything, it’s my mum who buys my presents and according to my dad that makes me a spoilt brat so why should I buy for him? Sorry for my rant

Wow, he's really toxic isn't he. 

Wow, he's really toxic isn't he. 

Thank you! Say he can be very controlling and then guilt trips me and does things to annoy me until I give in to his demands. Like it’s his way or no way. I’m so sorry your dad was also unpleasant with you as well. My dad can’t accept he’s been a bad parent and won’t accept the truth. I even suggested if he had autism and he lost it with me and said I shouldn’t just assume but I was only asking a question. I mean not all autistic people are nice and it’s worse when they use that or any mental illness as their excuse to bullying others

My dad was very unpleasant and insulting to me too - so I can relate to how you feel. Some parents just don’t know how to be good, loving parents. It sounds like your mum is a bit nicer - so thank goodness for that. I think your choice to limit your exposure to his toxicity is very wise. 

Ugh tell me about it! I try and avoid contact with him the best I can now. I’m now getting to the point that the thought of seeing him and knowing I’m related to him freaks me out.