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Giving and recieving gifts

Kenny_1622

I have a problem giving and recieving gifts, it just doesnt feel like a normal thing to do. I feel like i have to act or be a certain way or im obligated to do something. Its difficult to process it, anyone else have similiar issue 

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  • i also struggle with this, but ive discovered that if I dont have to be in the same room as them when they open the gift I actually quite like giving gifts. its like a puzzle to solve working out what they might like. I find christmas hardest because there's more than one person to buy for and its complicated by potential comparisons between the recipients. eg. have I given a better gift to one sibling. 

    receiving gifts is worse for me. I dont think im difficult to buy for but I rarely get given anything I want and then I feel guilty that they've gone to the trouble to get me a gift. usually if someone gives me a gift I ask if they mind if I keep it to open it on my birthday or on Christmas day and then try not to be around anyone who might give me a gift on those days! 

    i think there's a book called love languages a friend of mine was talking about, it seemed ro make some sense. if gift giving is supposed to show you care then maybe the other 4 should be alternatives you can suggest.

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  • i also struggle with this, but ive discovered that if I dont have to be in the same room as them when they open the gift I actually quite like giving gifts. its like a puzzle to solve working out what they might like. I find christmas hardest because there's more than one person to buy for and its complicated by potential comparisons between the recipients. eg. have I given a better gift to one sibling. 

    receiving gifts is worse for me. I dont think im difficult to buy for but I rarely get given anything I want and then I feel guilty that they've gone to the trouble to get me a gift. usually if someone gives me a gift I ask if they mind if I keep it to open it on my birthday or on Christmas day and then try not to be around anyone who might give me a gift on those days! 

    i think there's a book called love languages a friend of mine was talking about, it seemed ro make some sense. if gift giving is supposed to show you care then maybe the other 4 should be alternatives you can suggest.

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