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mp500

I haven't spoken to anyone in two weeks. 

Not sure what the longest is this year (probably three weeks).

I haven't been out anywhere apart from the supermarket this week as i figured traipsing through rush hour traffic just to walk round in circles for an hour was a bit pointless. But I did go in to the city centre today since the sun was out. My back, neck and wrists have all been hurting because I spend most of the time sat here doing nothing.

I'm doubtful I'll speak to anyone else (properly) before the new year. Not much happens around Christmas.

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    mp500 said:
    How long till next time do we think?

    Since it is you making the effort then only you will decide this.

    The changes start with yourself - others will have their own pressures, agendas and limitations which will have to be considered but you are the one variable that you have control over.

    I sometimes go out just to have a coffee to be around others without any demands being put on me - it can be enough to scratch the socialising itch for a while.

    How about joining a local group - maybe for a shared interest or even a charity volunteer thing to give you a reason to go out and mix while doing something to take the edge off needing to be social?

    Just a thought.

  • Well, after over a month of not talking to anyone I finally went to see a friend (whom I'd not seen for a while) last week. 

    How long till next time do we think?

  • mp500 said:
    I haven't spoken to anyone in two weeks. 

    Make that four weeks now.

  • Thanks, I just havent had anyone to talk to. I don't talk to my family any more, and I don't celebrate Christmas so not much happening for me at the moment. I'll probably be going for a long walk on Christmas day to get away from family. I did get a smartphone a while back so I will be able to go on IRC and forums etc.

    Iain: good luck with the dating app. I used to use dating websites but didnt meet that many people. I'm just sticking to more 'specialist' adult sites now, which if i describe in any more detail here i will probably find myself at the mercy of the online safety act ;).

  • mp500 said:
    I haven't spoken to anyone in two weeks.

    That is a long time by most standards - was it through choice or is there nobody else in your life at the moment?

    I can sometimes go a week at a time without having more than a greeting with people I know in the gym, local restaurant, supermarket etc but this is through choice.

    This week I made a concious decision to get on a mainstream dating app - it is kind of daunting but good practice for me to work on the conversational skills and on my self confidence.

    mp500 said:
    I'm doubtful I'll speak to anyone else (properly) before the new year.

    My plans for Christmas have fallen through this year as my family are all travelling (was it something I said?) so I'll be on my own. 

    Maybe we should have a NAS Christmas session here and chat away, share how bad or good our homemade food is and cheer each other up.

    I've never been a big fan of New Years Eve parties - too exhausting and late for my tastes and I always get dragged into the after party cleanup for some reason (probably because I'm not drunk like the rest).

    Lets make our own, low demands Christmas get together!

  • Nice work, respect. I won't be talking to anyone from Friday til Monday. I go to the shop too to get food in. But I don't want to talk or look at anyone. Haha. I will be going to my grandma's concert, seeing my personal trainer, going to wheelchair rugby training and seeing my therapist next week. 

  • Hello  

    Thank you for reaching out to the Community. I am sorry to hear that you're feeling isolated at the moment. I hope you manage to connect with other Community members on this platform and feel less alone. You may find it useful to have a look at our Autism Services Directory, where you can search for social groups in your area or other resources for support: https://www.autism.org.uk/autism-services-directory

    Please do reach out if you need support.

    All the best,

    Chloe Mod