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Why do i feel so lost when i'm alone?

JAX43

I am experiencing mind blindness and feel stuck within myself ( can't think or move), this happens when i find myself alone unexpectedly. I am waiting for a post diagnosis assessment so i'm pretty clueless about traits of ASD and how we are affected so detrimentally by seemingly small, unexpected problems.

  • in reply to Iain

    Thankyou so much. It feels great to learn the language and definition of these experiences. I will look up rumination ( it definately resonates) it's suprising how something can feel so dibilitating and yet have such a simple solution ( once you know it).

  • Would it help to have a focus?

    If so, I would recommend making a list of the traits that your diagnosis has listed (or work off the list here: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis/before-diagnosis/signs-that-a-child-or-adult-may-be-autistic ) and for each try to assign a half hour to research them.

    If you do one or two a day then you will start to build up a better understanding of them, plus taking action can help you feel empowered.

    A book that is good for looking up things by subject is: Autism For Dummies (2025) - ISBN 9781394301003 (paberback); ISBN 9781394301027 (ebook)

    You can dip in and out of it easily without the need to digest long chapters to get a few nuggets of info.

    As your knowledge grows you will start to see the issues coming from those traits - look for hints and tips on how to deal with these here, or just ask and you can start to find ways to make them less impactful.

    JAX43 said:
    I am experiencing mind blindness and feel stuck within myself ( can't think or move)

    Do you think this could be rumination?

    https://www.verywellmind.com/repetitive-thoughts-emotional-processing-or-rumination-3144936

    We all experience negative thoughts sometimes, but when we spend *too* much time dwelling on them, it can create distress and even contribute to mental health problems. Rumination involves repetitive and passive thoughts focused on the causes and effects of a person's distress. The problem is that these negative thoughts don't lead to solutions.

    Breaking the stasis seems to be the solution - do something physical will normally interrupt the cycle and if you can find something that occupies your hands for a while then your focus moves away from the rumination.

    The article goes into a lot more detail than this.

    So now you know you have more power over the trait.