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Burnout after telling work about diagnosis

Lemon slice

Hello I'm new here,  was officially diagnosed in June this year, im 53 year old female, really high masking with demanding job. I got to point recently i wanted to tell work as I feel like im getting more and more autistic recently, I've read this is a thing that happens. Told my boss last week, she was really supportive, woke up the next day and felt like had hit a massive wall and been off sick since then. My manager did discuss me taking some time off but didnt think I needed this. I feel like im in burnout, I think I'd been having that convo either work in my head for 6 months and actually doing it has tipped me over the edge, ive been so tense about telling them - been there nearly 20 years and they know im a high performer but not quite sure at this point how ill be when i go back. Can anyone relate to this? And burnout is so horrible, hardly been able to function, the exhaustion is intense. It feels like i might be like this forever, my logical mind knows I probably won't be but part of me thinks I've just turned into a crumbling mess. 

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  • Hi Lemon slice, I can relate to this too. I was AuDHD diagnosed in June at 59 and I am also now away from work with burnout. Like you, I am a regular high achiever and high-masking. For me, my employer was accepting of my diagnosis but my mask was slipping and I was finding it hard to be as productive and clear-thinking as before. I hit the wall in November and I agree that burnout is horrible - scary and debilitating. The advice I have received (and have been working through) is deep rest, mindfulness, doing a few things that bring joy and starting to build a more authentic life that nourishes me. I am making some progress. I know things will be different from before and I have come to accept that and be curious about it. I wish you well - practice compassion for yourself and trust that you will find your way back to better health.

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    Hello, thanks for your response. That post is from start Dec, I just did what my body told me which was mainly major rest, ha suppose in burnout there isn't really a choice about that. Started getting bit better very gradually though probably just realising now coming back from burnout is a much longer process than thought. ive always been one for mindfulness done yoga and meditation for years, been doing somatic practices which have been really helpful. I went bsvk to work in Jan on phased return and was doing really well up until last week when a major stressor was put upon me in work (as nobody else had capacity to do it). It was way too much too soon, im now off again, but think this is shutdown due to that specific thing. I feel like can do about 80% of my role but not ready for the majorly stressful parts just now. Its just all so draining. Are you still off work? Do you think you can still continue in the role you do at work? 

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  • in reply to leveller61

    Hello, thanks for your response. That post is from start Dec, I just did what my body told me which was mainly major rest, ha suppose in burnout there isn't really a choice about that. Started getting bit better very gradually though probably just realising now coming back from burnout is a much longer process than thought. ive always been one for mindfulness done yoga and meditation for years, been doing somatic practices which have been really helpful. I went bsvk to work in Jan on phased return and was doing really well up until last week when a major stressor was put upon me in work (as nobody else had capacity to do it). It was way too much too soon, im now off again, but think this is shutdown due to that specific thing. I feel like can do about 80% of my role but not ready for the majorly stressful parts just now. Its just all so draining. Are you still off work? Do you think you can still continue in the role you do at work? 

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