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No friends. Not well .

Ava

Impossible to make friends. 

This site is good but it’s the only place I have anywhere to go.

Not able to do anything and no friends.

Too many problems 

Too ill

cant cope with it all by myself.

people have been making me more ill. I dont mean on here but in offline and I was too ill anyway.

They cant see it and I cant fix it.

Been a burden for decades and trying to be able when im not.

Not good

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    I found the school pick up excruciating - all the other mothers would be chatting away and I felt very self conscious about not being part of it all. I was so relieved when I didn’t have to do that anymore. 

  • I wish I could make friends but I get anxious around people and mask like crazy and just run through my scripts every time which must sound boring by now. I speak to other parents at school pick up for my kids sometimes and sometimes I just stand to the side by myself, but in a few years I won't have that anymore. I don't mind it overly, as I'm lucky enough to have a husband to talk to, but it would be nice to be able to be around other people. The only time I relax in conversation is if it's about one of my interests.

    I tried an art class a few months back, but it was really hard as my scripts are for talking about kids and the weather. Indoors with mostly women who were older I found I didn't know how to make any small talk and felt so inadequate. The best I managed was that the pencils had some nice colours.

    It is very hard sometimes isn't it.

  • I've just joined the forum after been waiting years for my autism assessment. I'm also looking for friends also so feel free to message me Slight smile

  • So many of us autistic people struggle to make friends, or don’t want friends - or alternate between feeling lonely and wanting to make friends and just hating the idea. I think it’s one of the hardest things about being autistic. My youngest son would love to have some friends and a girlfriend but his social anxiety has so far prevented him making any progress with this. I’ve always had mixed feelings about about friends - part of me wanted them, part of me didn’t, and once I’d met my husband and had children I felt no need for friends. As I’ve got older though I wish I’d persevered a bit more to find people ( who aren’t my family members) who  I could actually really enjoy being with. It’s never too late though - so it’s something I’m going to look at in the near future. It’s not easy though that’s for sure. I’m really sorry you’ve been dealing with illness - that’s so challenging and no wonder you get down. This community is always welcoming though - and so supportive. I hope you feel a bit better soon.