I haven’t heard anybody saying exactly that, but I’ve often heard people say “work on yourself and not on the other person”.
In this context my understanding is that we can change ourselves, but we can’t change other people.
Most of us aren’t responsible for other people’s actions, we can only work on ourselves to make ourselves feel or act differently. If we try to change the other, it can harm the relationship.
If somebody in a relationship is doing something morally wrong, it can sometimes be acceptable to ask them to stop.
I haven’t heard anybody saying exactly that, but I’ve often heard people say “work on yourself and not on the other person”.
In this context my understanding is that we can change ourselves, but we can’t change other people.
Most of us aren’t responsible for other people’s actions, we can only work on ourselves to make ourselves feel or act differently. If we try to change the other, it can harm the relationship.
If somebody in a relationship is doing something morally wrong, it can sometimes be acceptable to ask them to stop.
