Because nobody is perfect, life doesn't come with a handbook, road map or itinerary. It is made up as we go.
Understanding what the heck is going on e.g. social communication, can be particularly hard as an autistic person. (hehe as I type this I am probably demonstrating that as far as some people might assess things!)
Getting "better" oneself in terms of skills, knowledge and emotional well being is really handy as human relationships come with "give and take" that calls upon these things. This is reasonable and fair and good advice I believe.
However put in this context - overall because these days there is huge pressure to be..... something other than what one is .... often more than one is able to be at present... The only answer we are given to getting better is growth.
Perhaps cynically because then the person who is not able can be blamed or held personally responsible when they are not able to be successful.
Anyway my observation is that such pressure makes people feel unhappy with themselves and makes them feel that the only way to be happy is to be "better versions" of themselves.
This pressure makes people less able to be happy so guess what - they are less likely to be the best version of themselves..
Unhappy people are easier to push around by selfish people to get to do things that are bad for most people but good for the really selfish ones.
Advertising relies on this principle.
Which appears to me what is happening for the vast swathes of humanity. Until they are pushed to far and then... who knows?
Because nobody is perfect, life doesn't come with a handbook, road map or itinerary. It is made up as we go.
Understanding what the heck is going on e.g. social communication, can be particularly hard as an autistic person. (hehe as I type this I am probably demonstrating that as far as some people might assess things!)
Getting "better" oneself in terms of skills, knowledge and emotional well being is really handy as human relationships come with "give and take" that calls upon these things. This is reasonable and fair and good advice I believe.
However put in this context - overall because these days there is huge pressure to be..... something other than what one is .... often more than one is able to be at present... The only answer we are given to getting better is growth.
Perhaps cynically because then the person who is not able can be blamed or held personally responsible when they are not able to be successful.
Anyway my observation is that such pressure makes people feel unhappy with themselves and makes them feel that the only way to be happy is to be "better versions" of themselves.
This pressure makes people less able to be happy so guess what - they are less likely to be the best version of themselves..
Unhappy people are easier to push around by selfish people to get to do things that are bad for most people but good for the really selfish ones.
Advertising relies on this principle.
Which appears to me what is happening for the vast swathes of humanity. Until they are pushed to far and then... who knows?
