Why do people tell others to work on themselves before or instead of a relationship?
A big part of this is if you don't value yourself enough then you tend to let others opinions have more weight than your own so you don't find a healthy balance.
Finding your own "worth" takes a lot of self reflection and maturity which also helps you assess the other potential partner better. It reduces the likelihood of being taken advantage of, of being too compliant and helps you negotiate terms of engagement with the potential partner to suit your needs & wants.
In some ways it is a bit like having your car checked over before puting it into a race - failure to check can result in the wheels falling off, the exhaust backfiring and lack of performance - much is the same for relationships.
Why do people tell others to work on themselves before or instead of a relationship?
A big part of this is if you don't value yourself enough then you tend to let others opinions have more weight than your own so you don't find a healthy balance.
Finding your own "worth" takes a lot of self reflection and maturity which also helps you assess the other potential partner better. It reduces the likelihood of being taken advantage of, of being too compliant and helps you negotiate terms of engagement with the potential partner to suit your needs & wants.
In some ways it is a bit like having your car checked over before puting it into a race - failure to check can result in the wheels falling off, the exhaust backfiring and lack of performance - much is the same for relationships.
