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Masking positive traits

McFrost

Does anyone have experience of masking so much that even traits that might be deemed positive, needed to be covered up? My example of this is memory and observation. So many times I would be involved in, or be near to a conversation for which I had a very important piece of information that could really have contributed to the conversation, but I held it back. It was almost always to do with a piece of information that I remembered, often some trivia or a number or a name, or something I had observed that others wouldn't have noticed. I did it because I feared that others would think that I was weird for remembering or observing such a small detail, so I was embarrassed to say anything. Even if it would have been really useful to do so!

Just another way that we try to fit in with the neurotypical world I suppose. I just wish I had more confidence about the things I am good at!

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    1. It has the added benefit that people cannot read you easily. If I was meeting someone for the first time I might be masked or semi masked. This may be advantageous in certain situations. I tend to keep a lot inside, sometimes I splurge information (I’m not sure if anyone’s listening) things usually when I feel visible. I don’t like being watched, jogging cooking making art even at work, I perform better if unseen behind the scenes or at least feeling shielded. People often steal ideas literally and verbatim, even on this site it can be an echo chamber, this is a normie trait so be aware how much value you’re giving away to these people who want to be seen as the originators (influential or powerful or for attention) they are probably not autistic,  NTs require everything out and visible working as a team to strip this. 
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    1. It has the added benefit that people cannot read you easily. If I was meeting someone for the first time I might be masked or semi masked. This may be advantageous in certain situations. I tend to keep a lot inside, sometimes I splurge information (I’m not sure if anyone’s listening) things usually when I feel visible. I don’t like being watched, jogging cooking making art even at work, I perform better if unseen behind the scenes or at least feeling shielded. People often steal ideas literally and verbatim, even on this site it can be an echo chamber, this is a normie trait so be aware how much value you’re giving away to these people who want to be seen as the originators (influential or powerful or for attention) they are probably not autistic,  NTs require everything out and visible working as a team to strip this. 
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