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Masking positive traits

McFrost

Does anyone have experience of masking so much that even traits that might be deemed positive, needed to be covered up? My example of this is memory and observation. So many times I would be involved in, or be near to a conversation for which I had a very important piece of information that could really have contributed to the conversation, but I held it back. It was almost always to do with a piece of information that I remembered, often some trivia or a number or a name, or something I had observed that others wouldn't have noticed. I did it because I feared that others would think that I was weird for remembering or observing such a small detail, so I was embarrassed to say anything. Even if it would have been really useful to do so!

Just another way that we try to fit in with the neurotypical world I suppose. I just wish I had more confidence about the things I am good at!

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  • McFrost said:
    I had a very important piece of information that could really have contributed to the conversation, but I held it back.

    I get this - sometimes when you chip in with the info you get grief for either being a know-it-all or for making them reconsider their assumptions. Both cost you socially.

    For the most part these days I just ignore situations where I am not expected to contribute and observe them at best. I used to get a nagging feeling that I should be getting in there and puting them straight, adding info to make their conversation accurate or whatever, but with experience I found it just wasn't worth the hassle.

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  • McFrost said:
    I had a very important piece of information that could really have contributed to the conversation, but I held it back.

    I get this - sometimes when you chip in with the info you get grief for either being a know-it-all or for making them reconsider their assumptions. Both cost you socially.

    For the most part these days I just ignore situations where I am not expected to contribute and observe them at best. I used to get a nagging feeling that I should be getting in there and puting them straight, adding info to make their conversation accurate or whatever, but with experience I found it just wasn't worth the hassle.

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