Masking positive traits

Does anyone have experience of masking so much that even traits that might be deemed positive, needed to be covered up? My example of this is memory and observation. So many times I would be involved in, or be near to a conversation for which I had a very important piece of information that could really have contributed to the conversation, but I held it back. It was almost always to do with a piece of information that I remembered, often some trivia or a number or a name, or something I had observed that others wouldn't have noticed. I did it because I feared that others would think that I was weird for remembering or observing such a small detail, so I was embarrassed to say anything. Even if it would have been really useful to do so!

Just another way that we try to fit in with the neurotypical world I suppose. I just wish I had more confidence about the things I am good at!

Parents
  • Yeah, though I would practice it in my head several times to make sure I was going to say it right, and by that time the conversation had generally moved on, leaving me holding onto that little bit of important info and wishing I could have said it, but also relieved I hadn't joined the conversation and then been expected to say more.

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  • Yeah, though I would practice it in my head several times to make sure I was going to say it right, and by that time the conversation had generally moved on, leaving me holding onto that little bit of important info and wishing I could have said it, but also relieved I hadn't joined the conversation and then been expected to say more.

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