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Masking positive traits

McFrost

Does anyone have experience of masking so much that even traits that might be deemed positive, needed to be covered up? My example of this is memory and observation. So many times I would be involved in, or be near to a conversation for which I had a very important piece of information that could really have contributed to the conversation, but I held it back. It was almost always to do with a piece of information that I remembered, often some trivia or a number or a name, or something I had observed that others wouldn't have noticed. I did it because I feared that others would think that I was weird for remembering or observing such a small detail, so I was embarrassed to say anything. Even if it would have been really useful to do so!

Just another way that we try to fit in with the neurotypical world I suppose. I just wish I had more confidence about the things I am good at!

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  • I remember my parents almost forced me to skip lessons one time at school, together with my peers. I did it. It was painful. I was just forced to fit in, but it never worked. I've never skiped any lessons anymore. I have a very strong urge to do everything the right way (according to the official rules) but im blind to the non official social rules, which made many people angry,  as I found out. I'm just figuring out how it works and how I can possibly adjust to it.

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  • I remember my parents almost forced me to skip lessons one time at school, together with my peers. I did it. It was painful. I was just forced to fit in, but it never worked. I've never skiped any lessons anymore. I have a very strong urge to do everything the right way (according to the official rules) but im blind to the non official social rules, which made many people angry,  as I found out. I'm just figuring out how it works and how I can possibly adjust to it.

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