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Does anyone else sometimes (or most of the time...) struggle with banter?!

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I don't know what it is, but even though, I can 100% process in my brain that someone is my friend and would never seriously gloat or be mean to me, when I lose something like a game and they try to do some playful jokes about beating me or being better, I verbally shutdown and feel immense sorrow and rage (and then quietly and politely withdraw somewhere), I think it might stem from my very black and white viewpoint of what is just or fair, and any sort of rubbing in victory in the faces of opponents is something I am against completely and whenever I win anything I always take time to make sure the other person is fine or talk to them

But why, when yet again, i know it's my friend, just making a small joke about doing better then me, can I not just overlook it?! because I logically know they don't mean it, I can process that completely, but I still feel all the emotions can get so over-dramatic in secret over what is basically nothing.

Does anyone else struggle with this?! I feel like I'm crazy, how do people deal with this?

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  • I don't dish out what I can't take back. I learnt that when I was a kid.

    While light-hearted teasing and stopping people getting too big for themselves is part of life, there are times when things can become cutting and hurtful. It may be over sensitivity, but not always.

    As in the old saying: Many a true word is spoken in jest. 

    I tend to mostly not contribute. I probably take things to seriously or literally. Once I form an image in my mind it is hard to ignore it.

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  • I don't dish out what I can't take back. I learnt that when I was a kid.

    While light-hearted teasing and stopping people getting too big for themselves is part of life, there are times when things can become cutting and hurtful. It may be over sensitivity, but not always.

    As in the old saying: Many a true word is spoken in jest. 

    I tend to mostly not contribute. I probably take things to seriously or literally. Once I form an image in my mind it is hard to ignore it.

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