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Un-Masking (Advice please)

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I would like to ask about peoples experiences of unmasking, aiming to unmask fully. For the reason of improving health and wellbeing. And how this feels or what improved, or worsened because of this.

Without wanting to go into any conspiracy theories, there is a part of me that there are bad actor normies scheming around us alll the time. This include those who might exploit people with autism to further their aims or neurotype beliefs. Part of me also sees a massive social media drive to encourage more people to unmask, I'm not sure who this benefits unless it is totally self initiated. 

Do other people need to know you have unmasked? Have you asked for support? Are the external changes noticable mainly to you or are the internal benefits of doing this commented on by others. Does unmasking also require a degree of disclosure to others, or does another level of masking occur if you don't fully disclose it?!!

I asked ai about it and it said suggested: 'selective unmasking and using scripts to reduce social effort' which seems to be what people who mask are doing to some extent. 

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  • The first thing is to be clear what masking things you do. There are many elements. I listed them in my masking thread.

    Then think about which ones you want to stop and where are when you might do it.

    There are different ones you do under different circumstances too.

    If you have emotional neglect issues, you will also do more because of that.

    The main thing really is to address why you are doing them, which is basically insecurity, fear, self doubt, etc., then work on removing some of the anxiety and being more confident.

    At least this is what I am doing. Fix the root cause rather than the symptoms. 

    If you reduce the mental load you can get out of burnout. Then the trauma can be addressed.

    Then you can integrate your emotions and things look less scary and you can do more.

    Without being in flight/flight mode all the time you can then sleep.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thanks this is helpful. I don't classify it as my insecurity though others might as I am largely outnumbered in public and in the workplace. Minimisation of those affects aimed at me, and reducing mental load does seem to be the reason. A constant defence when there are times I don't need it switched on.

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  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thanks this is helpful. I don't classify it as my insecurity though others might as I am largely outnumbered in public and in the workplace. Minimisation of those affects aimed at me, and reducing mental load does seem to be the reason. A constant defence when there are times I don't need it switched on.

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