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Anyone else sick of pretending to be fine?

Ava

I’m sick of trying. I’m exhausted trying to do everything say everything to speak right. Sick of being judged. Also sick of trying to be someone I’m not. I honestly cant do most things. But I will try to show I can do them. I don’t know how to stop trying to be more able than I am. The more I try the more exhausted mentally and the worse it gets. But I can’t stop. It’s because there’s pressure in me and outwith me to be more than I can be. To get it all right. To be more than I can. To do things I can’t do. I’m too ill for it. I’ve tried and I’m not able to do it. My brain doesn’t work. I have undiagnosed ADHD rejection sensitivity Dysphoria anxiety depression burnout and level one autism. Heads exhausted.

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  • Ava said:
    It’s because there’s pressure in me and outwith me to be more than I can be.

    It may help to reframe how you respond to some of these things from "I can't do it" to "I don't do it".

    If you say "can't" then people will try to persuade you that you really can or give you advice on how to do it.

    By making it "don't" then it is clear that it is your choice not to do it and people are more likely to ask why and you can articulate your reasons if you choose to or simply stand by your choice.

    It is a very powerful way or regaining control.

    Once control is back with you then it will help a lot of the other issues of feeling bad to come back into managable levels and give you room to feel human again.

    It works for me.

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  • Ava said:
    It’s because there’s pressure in me and outwith me to be more than I can be.

    It may help to reframe how you respond to some of these things from "I can't do it" to "I don't do it".

    If you say "can't" then people will try to persuade you that you really can or give you advice on how to do it.

    By making it "don't" then it is clear that it is your choice not to do it and people are more likely to ask why and you can articulate your reasons if you choose to or simply stand by your choice.

    It is a very powerful way or regaining control.

    Once control is back with you then it will help a lot of the other issues of feeling bad to come back into managable levels and give you room to feel human again.

    It works for me.

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