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Black and white, or shades of grey thinking

TheCatWoman

I see many people here talk of black and white thinking and that it's a very ND thing. I rarely think in black and white and nearly always in shades of grey, for me everyhthing is about context and nuance. Often I find black and white thinking like being slapped in the face by a wet fish, it's such a shock, it's also not something I particularly associate with ND but with with mostly male NT's.

It's something I find quite alienating, something that marks me out as different to both other ND's and NT's. It's not that I can't be analytical or decisive, although to some it may seem so, usually when I disagree with them and it's a case of refusing to take their stance, or be bounced into something I'm unsure of. Although I do tend to let things happen organically, the right thing comes at the right time without interfearance from me.

Are you all black and white, or are you grey?

What's your experience of being asked to think in the opposite way?

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  • This reminds me of lyrics in a New Model Army song called 'The Cause' - 'All we wanted was a chance to see the world, In black and white instead of a hundred shades of grey'.

    I can be black and white thinking as in I have a strong sense of what I think is right and wrong and how I like to do certain things.  However, in general - opinion, decisions etc, I think I'm more a 100 shades of grey, as I look to weigh up all the possibilities and look at things from lots of different angles to feel like I'm making the 'right', 'balanced' decision.  I'm sometimes accused of getting bogged down in the details, not seeing the wood for the trees etc.  It can totally cause me to overthink. 

    My 'big picture' usually gets constructed from the bottom up using all the details.  It's both a blessing and a curse (or if we're being grey something in between!).  

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    Joe said:
    I'm sometimes accused of getting bogged down in the details

    I was “accused” of this in my ASD assessment Medical Report. Outside of this, others have accused me of it too. I have a fear of getting something wrong (e.g., moral decisions or not finding out and giving the full facts about a situation or a news item, which could cause another person to get the wrong idea about something). I think that is why I carry guilt. 

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  • in reply to Joe
    Joe said:
    I'm sometimes accused of getting bogged down in the details

    I was “accused” of this in my ASD assessment Medical Report. Outside of this, others have accused me of it too. I have a fear of getting something wrong (e.g., moral decisions or not finding out and giving the full facts about a situation or a news item, which could cause another person to get the wrong idea about something). I think that is why I carry guilt. 

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