Black and white, or shades of grey thinking

I see many people here talk of black and white thinking and that it's a very ND thing. I rarely think in black and white and nearly always in shades of grey, for me everyhthing is about context and nuance. Often I find black and white thinking like being slapped in the face by a wet fish, it's such a shock, it's also not something I particularly associate with ND but with with mostly male NT's.

It's something I find quite alienating, something that marks me out as different to both other ND's and NT's. It's not that I can't be analytical or decisive, although to some it may seem so, usually when I disagree with them and it's a case of refusing to take their stance, or be bounced into something I'm unsure of. Although I do tend to let things happen organically, the right thing comes at the right time without interfearance from me.

Are you all black and white, or are you grey?

What's your experience of being asked to think in the opposite way?

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  • I recognise that a lot. I often have to tell myself that it's ok to not know something but there are occasions in work where, if I am asked a question I don't know the answer to, it completely throws me and basically leaves me feeling like a massive fraud.

    I'm not sure if this is something already acknowledged, but imposter syndrome must be big with ASD1 people (and maybe other ND types as well) - heavily related to masking.