Anybody else or just me?

RoofTopRambler said:

i have been using ai to pose questions too as a means of infomation gathering

I would advise caution when using AI in this manner as it is quote prone to confirmational bias, ie if it thinks you are looking for a particular answer then it will give you that answer, sometimes without any facts to back it up (ie it fabricates it).

The trick here is to ask it to cite its sources so you can review them and make sure 1) they say what the AI tell you and 2) that they look like a reputable source.

I can recommend a simple to follow book to start, something like:

Autism For Dummies (2025) - ISBN 9781394301003 (paberback); ISBN 9781394301027 (ebook)

Then I would consider the areas I wanted  to read more about and dig deeper - ask here for other recommendations as there are a load of books out there on different aspects of autism.

There is a lot of personal experience shared on these discussion threads which you can search using the box at the top of the screen but if you have a specific question then it is most effective just to ask and you should get a range of replies within a day or two.

Knowledge = power so make yourself powerful.

I hear you regarding the ai, and whilst I didn't think of the AI forming answers to something of a "what they want to hear" fashion I've tried to apply Bruce lees philosophy, take what is useful, reject what is useless and add what is specifically my own, in the sense that if I'm reading about something if it resonates with me in " I've experienced that for myself " kind of way, other wise I don't consider it gospal just information.

I'm the type that works of energy and vibe so if something rings true for me I " feel it " so I don't believe every little thing I read , there is a lot of stuff on Facebook that I felt was quite .... Absolute  like "this" is the only way autistics experience something and a lot of that didn't resonate with me, seemed to absolute or inflexible .

I was starting to look into the vulnerability of autistic over sharing 

And well in plain English, I have screwed myself over a hell of a lot by not understanding what I was doing or what I was and I guess I'm expressing the regret I have that had I known and understood I would have played things very differently.

My experience literally has been telling the truth how I see it, get misrepresented and come out the bad guy or ( seems to be my personal favourite ) cause myself major consequences.

Like why is the desire to tell the truth and be understood so... Damaging ? Lol for the life of me I'm 45 and I still can't figure that one out as EVERY SINGLE TIME I have tried to stand like this I get f'ed , only speaking for myself and the experiences I've had in life..

I think what upsets me is the thought of having to take a more protective and less trusting position , to withhold rather than be open, like the reversal of certain character traits as a preventive measure of being taken advantage of.

It's like there's always something lost in the translation, I know what I'm saying but it seems to be having no impact or is met with no regard and then, I'm out lol I don't know what to do with that lol

I guess the pity party is about having put my foot in my mouth ( again lol ) I was all open and cooperative and honest thinking I would be heard and understood but again its tanked lol hence why Iveeen looking at autistic vulnerabilities to do with over sharing

RoofTopRambler said:

My experience literally has been telling the truth how I see it,

It really helps to understand that truth is subjective.

Even facts can be subject to change with time (think of how much medical science changes with time).

When you come to realise just how inconstant our perception of reality is then it helps form a more philosphical approach to having a "truth" of anything.

Most of the time it is better for us not to share these "truths" we see but to accept that everone will have their own and there is not real point in arguing over it.

RoofTopRambler said:

My experience literally has been telling the truth how I see it,

It really helps to understand that truth is subjective.

Even facts can be subject to change with time (think of how much medical science changes with time).

When you come to realise just how inconstant our perception of reality is then it helps form a more philosphical approach to having a "truth" of anything.

Most of the time it is better for us not to share these "truths" we see but to accept that everone will have their own and there is not real point in arguing over it.

I do get all that but this is where I fail.. consistently..  lol

Well have failed, starting to learn lol

The urge has mostly been to strong for my mask to hold back, and then from what I've read and slightly understand, I'm then in meltdown mode..

It makes more sense to me now ( in the course of starting this thread ) than it ever has lol but I've also learned that I need to be doing what I'm doing here, actually asking other autistic people lol 

I get the logic though, and try as I might I'm the powder keg type lol So a lot of energy is going into my mask , even before I leave the house my brain is like 20 min ahead of me lol 

But where I've kept quiet about things , they all seemed to mount up.. I mean there was a time when the mask did keep those things in check and even tho we are possibly a lesser version of our selves while behind a mask, for other reasons I was even less of myself , so it never felt like me, "me" was more busy being an exhausted wreck staring back from the other side of the mask lol 

I can quote it up ( special interest is a random movie from my collection in the background ) you must be familiar with the movie sucker punch? 

The line - " you gotta stand for something or you will fall for everything " 

And while I'm an imperfect silly little creature lol I did make the decision to stand for what I felt was right or good , fair yada yada the list goes on lol where it counted , not striving for perfection just at least I should try to when it really fkin matters lol

( Winces at the inflexible thinking sound of all that lol ) 

But aye here I am   a the very least I have learned that I at least need to be factoring in these elements of my autism to protect myself, I've spent a lot of time in survival mode but at least I'm starting to learn