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Loneliness

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I've only had one conversation with anyone this last month, and that was only a coincidence because I bumped into someone I'd not seen in a long time while on my way to the shops.

If I remember rightly I managed a couple of conversations in September.

Its really hard to sit here with nothing to do and no one to talk to for 15-20 hours per day.

I was going to go out today but its not worth getting stuck in traffic just to walk round a town centre in circles on my own for an hour.

  • Hi 

    Being on your own for so many hours must be really hard. I get why you would think what's the point.

    Could you break the day into chunks. Maybe schedule a hobby or an online/phone chat.? It might help things feel less empty.

    You’re not alone in feeling this way.

  • Try joining a creative writing group, even if you are not good at writing or putting things in order its a group some people work together like comedy groups and lots of the time the best or funniest ideas come from people who view the world slightly differntly than others and when you have a perpus to your days or weeks then you will have some direction and increased motivation, its not easy to get back into what is seen as normal life ifn you have been socially isolated for some time but small steps inthe right direction are always positive moves, try not putting too much pressure on yourself and abilities as they are right now and find a way to have fun and laugh at yourself and others in a way that make things seem less worrying and distressing, i wrote something earier on but its being checked by moderators, its just a little bit about whistling Willy peepeing Tom and scenning Ben who has people going Boz, there characters assigned to the noises and smells that worry people who over think whilst theyre at home alone, scenning Ben for example is the person you look at inthe mirror and when you stand too close he make you go bozeyed or crosseyed, its when people are alone for long periods of time that their mind and any deep routed personal worries will play tricks on them and seem much worse than they actually are.

  • I talk to my therapist once a week, usually talk to my neighbour once a week, I go to wheelchair rugby training, see my personal trainer. See my parents, nephews, grandma once a month overall the year. But the only person I have a proper conversation with without paying for it is with my grandma. And I have online friends, but I don't see them IRL. When I was young in my late teens and early 20's is didn't talk to anyone just stayed in my room because I was repressed. Having friends is what I need now to have a fulfilled life, but its going to take time. 

    I go out to get shopping, go for a walk.