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Dating advice

Ollie

Hi I’m 20 and looking to meet someone but don’t really leave the house much. I’ve tried dating sites but it’s hard to meet someone on there because of my autism. Any advise please on what works for someone that lacks social skills? 

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  • Do you have any interests or hobbies? I would say that the best way to meet someone would be through your interests. Say you were interested in wildlife, maybe join a birdwatching group; enjoy reading, try a book club; like board games, try a board game group or a local board game cafe. There are also online groups for special interests too, I'm not sure how to find them but I'm sure they're out there.

    If you think you lack social skills, you may find that you're not as bad as it as you think! I wouldn't try to be someone you're not, just be yourself, otherwise you'll meet someone who likes the 'masked' version of you rather than the real you. By all means think about some basics like, if someone asks you what you did at the weekend, it's polite to ask them how their weekend was too but don't stress about it too much. Don't overthink it, if you meet the right person, they really won't mind a bit of social awkwardness! 

    Finally, I would set out to meet people rather than trying to meet that special person. Often we find a partner when we are least expecting to.

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  • Do you have any interests or hobbies? I would say that the best way to meet someone would be through your interests. Say you were interested in wildlife, maybe join a birdwatching group; enjoy reading, try a book club; like board games, try a board game group or a local board game cafe. There are also online groups for special interests too, I'm not sure how to find them but I'm sure they're out there.

    If you think you lack social skills, you may find that you're not as bad as it as you think! I wouldn't try to be someone you're not, just be yourself, otherwise you'll meet someone who likes the 'masked' version of you rather than the real you. By all means think about some basics like, if someone asks you what you did at the weekend, it's polite to ask them how their weekend was too but don't stress about it too much. Don't overthink it, if you meet the right person, they really won't mind a bit of social awkwardness! 

    Finally, I would set out to meet people rather than trying to meet that special person. Often we find a partner when we are least expecting to.

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