It seems to pivot on the transition between being criticised for bad behaviour and becoming distressed by it.
If we can learn that criticism can be a useful thing and use it to learn (where justified), grow (where needed) or reject with confidence (where valid) then it feeds into a positive growth loop instead.
I see many people here take any sort of negativity badly and either start to fight back or spiral into despair. This is a weakness as I see it which we can learn to swing to our advantage.
If we do not learn to recognise "bad" behaviour in ourselves and evaluate if it should be sustained then we are making the same mistakes over and over.
It seems to pivot on the transition between being criticised for bad behaviour and becoming distressed by it.
If we can learn that criticism can be a useful thing and use it to learn (where justified), grow (where needed) or reject with confidence (where valid) then it feeds into a positive growth loop instead.
I see many people here take any sort of negativity badly and either start to fight back or spiral into despair. This is a weakness as I see it which we can learn to swing to our advantage.
If we do not learn to recognise "bad" behaviour in ourselves and evaluate if it should be sustained then we are making the same mistakes over and over.
My issue with this is that our behaviour isn't "bad", it is just different. Why should we completely change ourselves because others aren't particularly accepting? Why shouldn't we stim when we need to or show joy in our special interests? Nobody expects neurotypical people to change their "bad" behaviour. Only those that don't fit.
And when we are talking about traits that can actually be negative it can stop be asking a lot. Now I'm not saying that autistic people can't and shouldn't ever learn from their behaviour. But some things are inherently difficult and trying to change it would be incredibly mentally challenging. I find that when someone has criticised my behaviour - I then put a lot of effort into trying to repeat this behaviour and it takes so much mental energy, I just end up doing a load of other things that people don't like instead because my brain just cannot cope.
