Social Anxiety (?)

Hello everybody! 

I’m autistic and have CPTSD. I recently moved in with my partner’s parents, and even though they’re lovely, I really struggle to be around them. I mostly stay in my room because I only feel safe when I’m alone. Sometimes I even wait to eat or go for a wee until the house is quiet.

I call myself the house gnome, I come out when everyone’s gone to clean, cook, and dance around. But lately I’ve been more tired and anxious, and it’s getting harder to go downstairs or socialise. In the first couple of weeks it was easy to handle, I didn't feel this need of hiding but now feel myself getting more and more tired over time. 

Has anyone else felt like this when living with other people? How did you make it easier to feel safe and not so trapped in your room?

Thanks x

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  • If it is getting harder I would guess you are stressed. This constant stress will wear you down and make you isolate more. Don't carry on like this, if you burnout it will not go well. You may end up sleeping more and becoming withdrawn and have dysfunctional thoughts.

    You need to honestly look at what is stressing you and talk, to your partner and the parents. You need to find a way to be more comfortable, even if it seems very hard at the moment, or it will get worse.

    I assume you can't get your own place.

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  • If it is getting harder I would guess you are stressed. This constant stress will wear you down and make you isolate more. Don't carry on like this, if you burnout it will not go well. You may end up sleeping more and becoming withdrawn and have dysfunctional thoughts.

    You need to honestly look at what is stressing you and talk, to your partner and the parents. You need to find a way to be more comfortable, even if it seems very hard at the moment, or it will get worse.

    I assume you can't get your own place.

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