Failed by Society

Hello. my name is Danielle and I am a 34 year old awaiting an official diagnosis of Autism and also in the process of having a referral done for ADHD. 

That's about all the small talk I will allow, now on to the main topic now that I have officially introduced myself to the community. 

I see the world moving so far in some ways like technology, bigger companies and buildings ect. The world is moving at a fast growing rate in materialistic ways but I feel we are back tracking in our humanity and at an emotional level as a Society.

From my experience those with Autism or any other mental condition that differs from societies normal have been excluded, pushed to the outskirts of society due to our world leaders being so behind in understanding that we are different and have built the world around the majority and typical-brain while excluding those with a neuro-brain. I understand the world is trying to catch up, companies have been rolling out training, programmes to engage and get those with mental conditions or disabilities back into work and society but there just isn't enough support and hasn't the damage already been done?

What about those that have already been excluded and ostracised in their environments for simply daring to be their unique selves, standing up for social justice and their own truth.

I have faced such ostracising tactics more than once for simply being who I am and at an extreme level once my social justice radar went off. I probably stayed in an environment longer than I should because I wanted to give a person or group better understanding of the struggles I face, holding onto hope that by speaking my truth I could help or prevent someone else from suffering the same situation.

What I've learned so far; some people want to understand and to help but not everyone has the power to make that change on a big scale. 

Everything has to be passed on up to the person(s) with more power to make change and policies and while these leaders delay on real change many around the world are suffering more than they can ever understand. 

Is it any surprise many of us choose to withdraw from this society.

For me I was always introverted but I tried to fit into the world at the expense of the suffering of my mental, emotional and physical well-being.

The system has failed me in my adult life so now I have started to slowly become a selective recluse. 

Why would I choose to attempt to fit into this Society again? 

When I see real world change then I shall consider it... until then I will keep speaking my truth in anyway I can.

My purpose for joining this community and post is to hopefully find any like-minded folks on my vibe level, while also interacting with others to share my knowledge but also to gain further insight into others life experience. 

I consider myself a student of life.

There's always more to learn.

Shine Bright all.

Parents
  • Hi Danielle,

    Nice to meet you. I get what you’re saying. Taking myself as an example I think that’s the reason why I get absorbed by my special interests. Isn’t it a way of withdrawal from society when I lock myself so that I feel safe? Isn’t being completely alone minimising socialising to the maximum a way of giving up on this world that feels so alien/disappointing/painful so often? Depending on my state of mind I may do it convinced though but other times I may do it feeling guilty because aren’t we social beings? It seems counterproductive for our psychological wellbeing to spend a lot of time alone… but doesn’t it feel the right thing to do given the circumstances? It’s a deep and fascinating conversation. It’s not black or white. 

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  • Hi Danielle,

    Nice to meet you. I get what you’re saying. Taking myself as an example I think that’s the reason why I get absorbed by my special interests. Isn’t it a way of withdrawal from society when I lock myself so that I feel safe? Isn’t being completely alone minimising socialising to the maximum a way of giving up on this world that feels so alien/disappointing/painful so often? Depending on my state of mind I may do it convinced though but other times I may do it feeling guilty because aren’t we social beings? It seems counterproductive for our psychological wellbeing to spend a lot of time alone… but doesn’t it feel the right thing to do given the circumstances? It’s a deep and fascinating conversation. It’s not black or white. 

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  • Hi, thank you and nice to meet you too.

    I can understand you, the feeling of shutting your door on the world and just getting lost in your special interest and hobbies is bliss.

    Yes, it's very sad that we must deal with the loneliness and feel like an alien among our own peers. 

    I agree the topic has much grey area and it's rather something you feel more deeply than you can explain.

    We are only human and I think that's what bothers me the most that so many of us suffer this isolation, becoming used to more solitude lives than social one due to our differences. 

    Thank you so much for your experience and opinion on the topic. 

    I can only hope the world will be a better place for future generations.