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Communication issues

Expecto_Patronum

I'm finding myself having a lot of difficulty with communication at the moment. Obviously this is a part of being autistic and not uncommon. But I just seem to be having greater difficulty at the moment.

Things I'm saying are just being misinterpreted or come out not as I intended and I think people are actually getting offended. It is never my intention to offend anyone and I really try to think through what I'm saying but no matter how much thought I put in, it doesn't seem to be well received at times. Often I intend it to be funny but it just doesn't come out that way. I guess I could just stop trying to be funny but that's easier said than done. Humour is often a coping mechanism.

I don't know why this seems to be a greater difficulty at the moment. It's starting to really get to me. It just feels like other people seem to communicate with each other so easily and I always feel like on the outside. Trying so hard but failing so often. There always seems to be a big distance between me and other people. It really feels like I speak a different language sometimes. 

Finding it really hard not to beat myself up and hate my autism at the moment.

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  • Sorry to hear that

    I understand- I feel all over the place at the moment and don't feel I fit in anywhere 

  • in reply to Expecto_Patronum

    This sounds like my current situation too,   I wonder (hope) that things have improved for you both Kelly777 and Expecto_Patronum.

    For me, right now, I really struggle to get things out to the extent that my other half mocks this when we're having arguments.  I can barely function, really.   I try to keep my communications short and even more transactional than they already are.  I just feel so confused all the time.

    Things are very hot and unpleasant at home at the moment because of how the division of labour is not working for us.  My other half is worn out as it is.   This is just making me withdraw further and further and that is not helping either,

    I dearly want to take this forward and change but I cannot see a way.  Trust and good will have evaporated.  I am really just a shell,

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  • in reply to Expecto_Patronum

    This sounds like my current situation too,   I wonder (hope) that things have improved for you both Kelly777 and Expecto_Patronum.

    For me, right now, I really struggle to get things out to the extent that my other half mocks this when we're having arguments.  I can barely function, really.   I try to keep my communications short and even more transactional than they already are.  I just feel so confused all the time.

    Things are very hot and unpleasant at home at the moment because of how the division of labour is not working for us.  My other half is worn out as it is.   This is just making me withdraw further and further and that is not helping either,

    I dearly want to take this forward and change but I cannot see a way.  Trust and good will have evaporated.  I am really just a shell,

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