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Recent diagnosis, partner doesn't understand.

Kenneth1712

Hi there folks. 

I was recently diagnosed as an adult and my partner of 4 years says I've got worse since my diagnosis.  She rolls her eyes every time I mention it as a reason for something like not listening or picking up what she said (which I've always had a problem with). I'm just realising that all the issues I have ARE autism related but she just thinks it is an excuse for not being empathetic etc.  I'm struggling dealing with things and feel like this is a big deal in my life but she just says nothing has changed but it has.  It doesn't help that I found out my brother has terminal cancer the same day as my diagnosis. I'm currently off work with stress as I'm a bus driver and I struggle with that too and don't think I should be doing it.  It's all just a mess really.  

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  • I share the same challenge. We have been together around 27 years but my diagnosis isn’t accepted really. I have changed the way I think since diagnosis but I have not let anything that affects me affect my partner. 
    For me this cannot be resolved as I have had many cruel things said to me which has caused me a lot of stress.

    I am really sorry you are not only going through similar but with the sad news about your brother also. I don’t really know what to say but just wanted to say I empathise with you at this difficult time.

    Stay strong 

  • in reply to Take5

    Thanks. It helps.  I don't know if any neurotypical people really understand. I guess it is hard.  That is sad you have had cruel things said.  I've not had to deal with that thankfully.  

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