Relationships

Heya,

I have a couple of relationships. I have a boy friend (who i met in college and have been with for 6 years in November) and two best friends.

My relationship with BF has had its ups and down. He is 2 years younger than me, but due to my delays we were in the same year at college.

When I went to college I was openly autistic and for a long period non verbal. However, I had been running a software company for 8 years and had good IT skills. 

On my third day at the college, I had already figured out how to get my Mac to work on the college wifi when I saw someone else was having trouble.

Looking back, I did something really really stupid. I very rudely lent over him and fixed the problem.

He was... Surprised but was a nice geeky type who already knew I was autie. We became good friends and I became part of the geeky / gamer  group. (Even though I don't play video games)

Another member of the game group liked me and a year into college asked me out for a date. We went to see wall•e the film and I explained to him about how it feels to be non verbal and stuff. He asked me out then. 

I didn't know if I was gay. I didn't have a problem with it so I figure it was worth a try. 

He is a gamer (he plays video games all the time!) but he is also an academic studying philosophy. He has an interest in language. 

We are exact opposites. He is all emotional and touchy feely and wooly and I am not. We work really well together. 

When I finished college I moved out of supported living into my own flat with some support. I was not coping so well, and my current BF moved in to help me out. 

We have lived together since. He is still studying and works part time. I work full time, but he handles most I

Of the day to day complexities (like food shopping! And sensory stuff). 

The balance moves around a bit and there were times when he took advantage but were now it quite a good place.

He is very caring and he actively likes my autism traits. He does not really care how age appropriate I am being or what I do for fun.

He has a good deal as we use my income to provide his living costs. He pays a very small contribution to living costs (he pays 1/6th of total living costs, but I entirely self funded the mortgage and entirely own he flat)

I have a sexual relationship with my BF. Its difficult but it's improving and we have spent all of time figuring it out.

My best friend I have known even Longer. (11 years?) We met online and he is not diagnosed but somewhere near the spectrum.

He is also an IT type but many years ago he got into law and it now an international expert in financial crime. He works for various banks etc to stop fraud etc. He is 5 years older than me but he is super caring and we get along super super well.

It's sometimes joked he's like my dad (its a running joke, even his parents basically consider me his kid!  My parents have him as thier emergency contact) 

like a parent, we have agreed goals he helps me to achieve. For example learning to do shoes laces, or building up my confidence traveling.

For example, we recently went on holiday for a week with some other friends and I was super spaced out. I stopped speaking and spent most of the week super relaxed but really struggling with functioning. 

We went to the beach and did things all week. He does not mind if I hold his hand, he's the one the tends to 'take' me places (swimming, biking, kayaking, hair dressing). 

I was always curious why he spends effort on me when often I am so much if a chore. He said that it's okay. When I am spaced out i am easy to look after and he likes knowing that something small for him (visiting every Tuesday and helping me sort my post) is huge for me. He says its rewarding and I am interesting / fun and playful. He said its like having a playful 5 year old always up for an adventure, but without the tantrums

All my other friends I met through him. They all get to know me and know am an autie and how he looks after me a bit. 

Another good friends of mine is a more recent friend. He builds motorbikes and works in IT and is super super thoughtful. He works in tech support and he has incredible social skills. He is great at explaining things. 

That's about it really, those two people are about 85% of my social interactions outside of work. 

Cheers,

Jamie + Lion

(PS: I have permission from everyone mentioned above to post this!)

Heya,

I have a couple of relationships. I have a boy friend (who i met in college and have been with for 6 years in November) and two best friends.

My relationship with BF has had its ups and down. He is 2 years younger than me, but due to my delays we were in the same year at college.

When I went to college I was openly autistic and for a long period non verbal. However, I had been running a software company for 8 years and had good IT skills. 

On my third day at the college, I had already figured out how to get my Mac to work on the college wifi when I saw someone else was having trouble.

Looking back, I did something really really stupid. I very rudely lent over him and fixed the problem.

He was... Surprised but was a nice geeky type who already knew I was autie. We became good friends and I became part of the geeky / gamer  group. (Even though I don't play video games)

Another member of the game group liked me and a year into college asked me out for a date. We went to see wall•e the film and I explained to him about how it feels to be non verbal and stuff. He asked me out then. 

I didn't know if I was gay. I didn't have a problem with it so I figure it was worth a try. 

He is a gamer (he plays video games all the time!) but he is also an academic studying philosophy. He has an interest in language. 

We are exact opposites. He is all emotional and touchy feely and wooly and I am not. We work really well together. 

When I finished college I moved out of supported living into my own flat with some support. I was not coping so well, and my current BF moved in to help me out. 

We have lived together since. He is still studying and works part time. I work full time, but he handles most I

Of the day to day complexities (like food shopping! And sensory stuff). 

The balance moves around a bit and there were times when he took advantage but were now it quite a good place.

He is very caring and he actively likes my autism traits. He does not really care how age appropriate I am being or what I do for fun.

He has a good deal as we use my income to provide his living costs. He pays a very small contribution to living costs (he pays 1/6th of total living costs, but I entirely self funded the mortgage and entirely own he flat)

I have a sexual relationship with my BF. Its difficult but it's improving and we have spent all of time figuring it out.

My best friend I have known even Longer. (11 years?) We met online and he is not diagnosed but somewhere near the spectrum.

He is also an IT type but many years ago he got into law and it now an international expert in financial crime. He works for various banks etc to stop fraud etc. He is 5 years older than me but he is super caring and we get along super super well.

It's sometimes joked he's like my dad (its a running joke, even his parents basically consider me his kid!  My parents have him as thier emergency contact) 

like a parent, we have agreed goals he helps me to achieve. For example learning to do shoes laces, or building up my confidence traveling.

For example, we recently went on holiday for a week with some other friends and I was super spaced out. I stopped speaking and spent most of the week super relaxed but really struggling with functioning. 

We went to the beach and did things all week. He does not mind if I hold his hand, he's the one the tends to 'take' me places (swimming, biking, kayaking, hair dressing). 

I was always curious why he spends effort on me when often I am so much if a chore. He said that it's okay. When I am spaced out i am easy to look after and he likes knowing that something small for him (visiting every Tuesday and helping me sort my post) is huge for me. He says its rewarding and I am interesting / fun and playful. He said its like having a playful 5 year old always up for an adventure, but without the tantrums

All my other friends I met through him. They all get to know me and know am an autie and how he looks after me a bit. 

Another good friends of mine is a more recent friend. He builds motorbikes and works in IT and is super super thoughtful. He works in tech support and he has incredible social skills. He is great at explaining things. 

That's about it really, those two people are about 85% of my social interactions outside of work. 

Cheers,

Jamie + Lion

(PS: I have permission from everyone mentioned above to post this!)