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HighToryPsychic

Hello. I am really pleased to have joined this community. I recently came to understand that I am autistic after moving out of my parents house a year ago. I am 32. 

I enjoy just being on my own in my flat, not talking to anyone for 4 days in a row. I am not interested in having friends or relationships with anyone. I do play wheelchair rugby, have a personal trainer and visit my family. But I have never been interested or liked having 'normal' friends. I have a couple online friends who I have met, but they don't live close to me. 

Its something I struggle with because people are meant to want friends and a romantic partner, but I never have. Even since I was a young child/teenager. I am wondering if anyone else feels like this and how they understand it. Thanks. 

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  • Hey, I completely understand. I've lived by myself for 10 years, and sometimes I don't leave the house for weeks at a time, and I don't speak to anyone within that time - unless it's for work. I do have some friends but they're not geographically close either, and I like it that way bv I very rarely see them, so there's no pressure to have to do things I don't want to.  

    I'm very happy being completely by myself, I have no desire to have a partner or people around me, and I've always known this since I was young as well. There is too much expectation and demand put on socialising in society, but I sometimes just wondering if it's just another cog in the wheel of capitalism bc it's easier to sell to people who fit into certain social structures. so it feels good to reject that whole idea as well. 

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  • Hey, I completely understand. I've lived by myself for 10 years, and sometimes I don't leave the house for weeks at a time, and I don't speak to anyone within that time - unless it's for work. I do have some friends but they're not geographically close either, and I like it that way bv I very rarely see them, so there's no pressure to have to do things I don't want to.  

    I'm very happy being completely by myself, I have no desire to have a partner or people around me, and I've always known this since I was young as well. There is too much expectation and demand put on socialising in society, but I sometimes just wondering if it's just another cog in the wheel of capitalism bc it's easier to sell to people who fit into certain social structures. so it feels good to reject that whole idea as well. 

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