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HighToryPsychic

Hello. I am really pleased to have joined this community. I recently came to understand that I am autistic after moving out of my parents house a year ago. I am 32. 

I enjoy just being on my own in my flat, not talking to anyone for 4 days in a row. I am not interested in having friends or relationships with anyone. I do play wheelchair rugby, have a personal trainer and visit my family. But I have never been interested or liked having 'normal' friends. I have a couple online friends who I have met, but they don't live close to me. 

Its something I struggle with because people are meant to want friends and a romantic partner, but I never have. Even since I was a young child/teenager. I am wondering if anyone else feels like this and how they understand it. Thanks. 

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  • I have a few friends, but I have learned that it's okay to only have a few and not try so hard. - or none in person at all if that's the preference.

    I've lost friends because I can't keep up, I don't respond to messages, I don't often want to catch up, and when I do, I get tired out quickly and want to run home to my cat and quiet.

    I've accepted now that the ones I've lost is fine and no longer try to really make new friends or force myself to maintain them.

    I now have a few, who accept me being mostly unmasked around them, they understand the challenges, so we meet only in cool and quiet places, not in the heat or noisy cafes. And they accept that they don't hear from me frequently.

    But when we do see each other, we love it and have plenty to talk about, I feel seen and heard and loved. And then they let me go back to my little home and know they will see me again when they see me.

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  • I have a few friends, but I have learned that it's okay to only have a few and not try so hard. - or none in person at all if that's the preference.

    I've lost friends because I can't keep up, I don't respond to messages, I don't often want to catch up, and when I do, I get tired out quickly and want to run home to my cat and quiet.

    I've accepted now that the ones I've lost is fine and no longer try to really make new friends or force myself to maintain them.

    I now have a few, who accept me being mostly unmasked around them, they understand the challenges, so we meet only in cool and quiet places, not in the heat or noisy cafes. And they accept that they don't hear from me frequently.

    But when we do see each other, we love it and have plenty to talk about, I feel seen and heard and loved. And then they let me go back to my little home and know they will see me again when they see me.

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