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Greeting & Farewell Etiquette - To kiss or not to kiss?

GPK26

I’m a 54 year male, late diagnosed ASD and would welcome thoughts from forum members on the subject of greetings and farewells – to kiss or not to kiss?

This is something that I have long felt slightly awkward & unsure about, but have tended to go in for a nice squeezy hug and peck on the head or cheek with female friends (sometimes the same with male friends).

I have a limited number of friends, with perhaps five or six close friends with whom I share a high level of trust. My greetings and goodbyes with these individuals are typically sincere and meaningful, and they provide me with considerable comfort.

I would be interested to hear about the approaches others take in similar social situations. Currently, I am navigating a particular circumstance related to this topic, which is prompting this inquiry. I will provide additional details later once I have gathered some perspectives from this discussion.

So, what do you tend to do in such situations?

Parents

  • I dislike the hugging or kissing thing when people depart and arrive come to think of it. When I get cornered there is no escaping it but it doesn’t feel like the natural thing to do. I’m not a fan of people touching me with scratchy nails either as it send horrible shivers all through my body. A good tactic I use now is to hang back and walk into the hallway as the others are going through the door, that way I get to say goodbye and not appear rude but without the uncomfortable embracing.

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  • I dislike the hugging or kissing thing when people depart and arrive come to think of it. When I get cornered there is no escaping it but it doesn’t feel like the natural thing to do. I’m not a fan of people touching me with scratchy nails either as it send horrible shivers all through my body. A good tactic I use now is to hang back and walk into the hallway as the others are going through the door, that way I get to say goodbye and not appear rude but without the uncomfortable embracing.

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  • in reply to Take5

    Ha! I do that too! It's all about getting your body into a position where the "hugger" has to traverse an obstacle course to get to you.

    It's easier to do when leaving than when arriving. On leaving, I like to get to the front door first, then whoever I'm with follows and now I'm too hemmed in by the door to be able to hug goodbye to the hosts, so I just wave.