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Greeting & Farewell Etiquette - To kiss or not to kiss?

GPK26

I’m a 54 year male, late diagnosed ASD and would welcome thoughts from forum members on the subject of greetings and farewells – to kiss or not to kiss?

This is something that I have long felt slightly awkward & unsure about, but have tended to go in for a nice squeezy hug and peck on the head or cheek with female friends (sometimes the same with male friends).

I have a limited number of friends, with perhaps five or six close friends with whom I share a high level of trust. My greetings and goodbyes with these individuals are typically sincere and meaningful, and they provide me with considerable comfort.

I would be interested to hear about the approaches others take in similar social situations. Currently, I am navigating a particular circumstance related to this topic, which is prompting this inquiry. I will provide additional details later once I have gathered some perspectives from this discussion.

So, what do you tend to do in such situations?

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  • I love tight hugs, especially if I'm feeling a bit stressed and overwhelmed.

    I've found from experience that I seem to be in the minority with this.

    I have never thought to add a kiss into the mix. Personally I feel like that would be too much. 

    Maybe there is a North/South divide on this?

  • in reply to Lonehare12

    "I love tight hugs, especially if I'm feeling a bit stressed and overwhelmed.
    I've found from experience that I seem to be in the minority with this."

    This is exactly where I am at - I feel that tight hugs with close friends demonstrates a connection, that both of you care and value the friendship. Don't get me wrong, I don't go around hugging (and kissing) just anyone! Grin

    Depending on the experience that I have had with the person, I may give them a small kiss on the head, forehead or cheek. For example, if I have shared a vulnerable moment or experienced anxiety during our time together and the friend has been especially supportive, I might view such a gesture as a sign of appreciation.

    I totally understand that for some ND's, even the idea of hugging and kissing can be extremely uncomfortable, and that's completely fine.

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