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I got the “you’re welcome” today

Autismman

I was in a busy shop earlier trying to get out of the way of shoppers who seem to want the item on the shelf right where I’m standing as usual so I head up to the top of the isle to try exit it and give others and myself room when a woman on my left says “you’re welcome” as I pass her. I’ll be honest I didn’t even see her as I was focusing on getting away from others as quickly as possible, she may as well have been part of a shelf for all I knew but it’s the passive aggressiveness that gets me, why resort to this tactic? Was she having a bad day? Did she not think for one second “he didn’t see me?”. I felt annoyed myself so just ignored her and carried on, next time am I meant to bow down at the feet of someone who gives me some extra room in a shopping isle?. This isn’t the first time I’ve come across this aggression aimed at me for not knowing someone had moved out the way for me, last time it was a bloke who was even angrier than the lady today. 

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  • Sometimes I get some strong reaction from people on the street, very usually it stays in my mind forever. I can probably list dozens of them, they hurt.

    I'm not sure what else to say, I guess there are many reasons why people react in strong ways, and I guess we sometimes do it as well.

    I am unsure whether we get more fixated, but it seems the case for me. Rationally understanding the event does help some, but not so much. Personally, I feel overwhelmed by possible interpretations, and get sad.

    It is also hard to introspect what actually happens internally.

    Do autistic individuals get hurt more than others at these events? And why?

    I feel like I'm growing the snowball here, so apologises if it is so.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Oh yeah, I feel exactly like this.

    I've never known why? 

    Maybe sensitivity/autism?

    Or a combination of both. Slight frown

  • in reply to Lonehare12

    Maybe if everybody felt tings as keenly as we ND's do, then the world would be a much nicer and more considerate place?

    Maybe it's not us who have the problem, it's the NT's who in thier arrogance think the world should conform to them and thier wishes?

    Maybe it's NT selfishness and short sighteness that leaves so many of us and them questioning our right to exist?

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  • in reply to Lonehare12

    Maybe if everybody felt tings as keenly as we ND's do, then the world would be a much nicer and more considerate place?

    Maybe it's not us who have the problem, it's the NT's who in thier arrogance think the world should conform to them and thier wishes?

    Maybe it's NT selfishness and short sighteness that leaves so many of us and them questioning our right to exist?

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