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One sleepless night is enough—I don’t want it to be two.

ArchaeC

What do people do if they can’t calm down after an incident such as an traffic accident? 

I was driving home yesterday when my car was hit by a lorry that didn’t stop. My windscreen came in on me but I wasn’t aware the bang was from the lorry and I couldn’t make sense of what had happened—I thought I had been attacked and I couldn’t physically function or make clear conversation. From the witness statements, I now understand why I wouldn’t have seen the impact coming. Fortunately, one kind person followed the lorry and came back with the registration number for the police. Other witnesses gave statements. I am not physically hurt but my car was not drivable so it is at the accident repair company. 

This is the second time my car has been hit on this road within just a few years. In the previous accident, I sustained two fractures and my car was written off. The driver of the other car was charged with careless driving. This incident was less than 300 metres from the previous accident location.

I have been pacing all day, trying to sort out insurance, car hire etc out.  It has been a nightmare as I didn’t know if the driver had hijacked the lorry and the car rental company wanted me to pay upfront in case the insurance wouldn’t cover rental of stolen vehicles. The situation has been made worse by the company who owns the lorry not responding to requests from police to identify the vehicle and driver until after closing time this evening; too late to get car rental sorted before Monday, but at least I now know I won’t be affected financially. The out of hours insurance company has escalated my claim this evening as I should not have been without even a basic car this long, but it says it might still be Monday before I get a car comparable to my automatic. 

Breathing techniques to calm down are futile when spending hours on the telephone listening to recordings of how busy the companies are and they will be with me as soon as possible. Three times, with two companies, my calls were cut off when I had just started speaking to the correct person. The whole ******** ********* having to be started again. I am having difficulty typing and I just desperately want this to be over and to sleep tonight. 

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  • Thank you everyone for your valuable comments and suggestions last night. I thought I was going mad, partly because I cannot cope with unresolved matters and partly because of the telephone issues. The shock clearly had a big impact too. You all helped me feel supported and I followed some of your suggestions, eventually managing to settle to sleep.

    This morning, the Insurance Company and the Car Rental Company (both with weekend limited service) failed to telephone me shortly after 9:00a.m. despite having promised to do so. I had to make two telephone calls which involved more listening to recorded messages and music, but I was sorted out with a manual car and a suitable automatic car will be available on Monday morning. I am hoping for a quiet and non eventful weekend until at least then.

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  • Thank you everyone for your valuable comments and suggestions last night. I thought I was going mad, partly because I cannot cope with unresolved matters and partly because of the telephone issues. The shock clearly had a big impact too. You all helped me feel supported and I followed some of your suggestions, eventually managing to settle to sleep.

    This morning, the Insurance Company and the Car Rental Company (both with weekend limited service) failed to telephone me shortly after 9:00a.m. despite having promised to do so. I had to make two telephone calls which involved more listening to recorded messages and music, but I was sorted out with a manual car and a suitable automatic car will be available on Monday morning. I am hoping for a quiet and non eventful weekend until at least then.

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