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Being an Autistic Manager is hard!

Vickstick

I'm late diagnosed Autistic (diagnosed July 24) and ADHD (Dec 23) so really new to everything. Add top that the fact that I got promoted to Admin Lead of my department in January this year. The new role has mostly been fairly comfortable. My line manager and HR department are fully aware of my diagnosis and on the whole are very supportive. I manage a small team of 6 admin and work with other departments to supply support for them as they need it. Lately, though, I have been feeling overwhelmed, due to the higher ups demands and my inability to say no (people pleaser - YAY!). There have also been some issues with some members of my team and with another manager in the company. My RSD is really kicking in and making me so paranoid that I feel like every conversation, low mood, teams message etc; is directly related to me. I've not wanted to go to work for the last 2 weeks and am on the verge of quitting every five minutes! I had to cancel my counselling due to money issues, and haven't got round to booking back in again yet. Someone talk me down off of this quitting ledge, cos I'm pretty sure that if I don't work this out, I'll be planning my new career as a florist or circus performer by the end of the day!

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  • Try to step outside yourself and look back.

    If you remove the personal element, and look at you as another person that is doing a function, how would you view what is happening. If you can intellectualise things it removes the emotion. 

    What would you say to this other person.

    You seem to have identified the main issues. You know what to do. You just need a plan and to try and do them. Have belief in yourself. It's not easy. Try not to keep everything in your head. Make lists and then you can focus without worrying about forgetting and you can prioritise.

    You don't have to do everything every day. I used to put myself under so much pressure.

    If you need more time or space, try to push back on some things, renegotiate to get time. Make some counter proposals so you are not negative.

    You don't have to fix everything in one go. Make some incremental improvements.

    Thing don't have to be perfect, embrace good enough.

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  • Try to step outside yourself and look back.

    If you remove the personal element, and look at you as another person that is doing a function, how would you view what is happening. If you can intellectualise things it removes the emotion. 

    What would you say to this other person.

    You seem to have identified the main issues. You know what to do. You just need a plan and to try and do them. Have belief in yourself. It's not easy. Try not to keep everything in your head. Make lists and then you can focus without worrying about forgetting and you can prioritise.

    You don't have to do everything every day. I used to put myself under so much pressure.

    If you need more time or space, try to push back on some things, renegotiate to get time. Make some counter proposals so you are not negative.

    You don't have to fix everything in one go. Make some incremental improvements.

    Thing don't have to be perfect, embrace good enough.

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