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Do you find it difficult to be rushed to do something

Kenny_1622

I find it really challenging to be rushed to do a job, it elevates my anxiety causes me to panic and gets me very confused and emotionally distressed. I have to spend time thinking the job  through at different periods before continuing. Anyone have problems with this ? 

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  • I'm like Stuart, I too get things done faster if I'm not asked. I'm often ok with the task I'm asked to do, but it does depend on who's doing the asking, the situation and the tone of voice. If it's a work type situation then I'll do it, I might have to grit my teeth, but thats what I'm there for. Some people disguise orders as requests that are difficult to ignore, but ignore them I often do, even if a disagreement happens later.

    To do something properly and well I need to be in the mood to do it and have the energy to do it, there are times when I really want to be out gardening, but I just don't have the energy or am in to much pain, then I get really fed up with being "asked" to do things.

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  • I'm like Stuart, I too get things done faster if I'm not asked. I'm often ok with the task I'm asked to do, but it does depend on who's doing the asking, the situation and the tone of voice. If it's a work type situation then I'll do it, I might have to grit my teeth, but thats what I'm there for. Some people disguise orders as requests that are difficult to ignore, but ignore them I often do, even if a disagreement happens later.

    To do something properly and well I need to be in the mood to do it and have the energy to do it, there are times when I really want to be out gardening, but I just don't have the energy or am in to much pain, then I get really fed up with being "asked" to do things.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I totally agree, if im not in the mood I wont do it as I won't have the energy to do it or the interrest. It becomes a massive choa physically and mentally to try and do it. I also hate being asked to do stuff as the way they say it can feel like there rushing you or demanding u to do it 

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I can relate to this. I also do very badly with external pressure and my efficiency fluctuates widely so when I can do things when I am feeling well it can be done in a tenth of time sometimes- but it is very hard to make this work for my PhD with all these external demands from others and from the university. Some of the rules just seem like additional barriers that make it very hard for me to get anywhere